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the courts have asked for a fact hearing to be done
in respect to me being accussed of rape and being found not guilty in crown court last year, the judge wants everything to do with this, but i have till 17th to submit statment to why i think he should not take this allegation into account, or am i best to let the judge go all way with it and provide my statements i used in court last year, and also her statements, seems because she made two statements within two days when she accussed me, and you can clearly see that she emssed up with them in regards to rape, because the first staement she made was when i was aressted, and the secound sataement was a more in depth statement to the first one, i would personnal would like for that fact hearing to be put to one side, im unsure on the way to word the statement i should put forward to the judge, because as far as i was aware, once found not guilty that was it, but now its ruining my life again
I'm sorry I wish i could advise you....I think if it were me, I would write the statement to the judge and try and convince him of my innocence. Just speak from the heart and tell the truth about it all, it cant make the situation any worse. Tell him about how it makes you feel and how you had thought once found not guilty you could move on. Tell him a bit about your child and how you feel about being a Dad and how important it is to you... Its worth a try isnt it...
Sorry to hear this - it sounds horrible.
Ex tried this with me, and it didn't get that far thankfully - but if it's any help: I was advised that some people make these accusations to try to get the family court to sympathise with them. (I certainly know of those who have played the domestic abuse card for this reason.) I'm sure every case is different, and it's a horrible business, but do you think there is a possibility that this might be why there was an accusation? If so, I would put that in the statement.
I would let the judge look at everything. Every judge I have seen (well, about 5) seem like reasonable people - and if they take your case seriously, some will obviously want to be as well informed as possible. Total openness on that front, I would think, is your best approach. Like Nannyjane, in your own statement, I think the main focus has to be about your child.
Good luck with it
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