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Hi all
I'm extremely upset. I have been through a lot and I'm still struggling but I feel that I'm exhausted now. I desperately need some honest advice.
I was living with my husband who treated me and my child very badly. I lived with him and his parents and they all made me and my child suffer. So I moved out after one big incidence of domestic violence.
Since then there has been no contact between my child and the father. However after the fact finding hearing, ALL of the allegations were proven wrong. Although I'm anonymous here, but I'm saying truthfully that all of the allegations were 100% correct. After reading the judgement of court, I am completely devastated.
All of the allegations were true and all of them were backed with evidence. I could not think for a second that there was the slightest possibility that even one of them could be proven wrong.
The judgement has been sent but the final hearing is yet to come. Is there any advice anyone has for me? This results of the hearing are very important to me Particularly because if the abuse that I suffered is not recognised then I suspect that the contact arrangements will not be made safely.
I am devastated to learn how abuse can be disregarded like this. I have cried for 12 hours straight but I feel numb now and I'm not sure what to write anymore.
Any advice anyone please?
Hi Jessica
I don't think it's fair for any of us to comment in detail as we don't know the details of your case or what evidence was presented to the court for them to make these findings and you say you still have the final hearing to come.
If you don't have representation, you could try speaking with http://childlawadvice.org.uk/clas/contact-child-law-advice/ and they can provide you with legal advice.
You would need to be a bit more specific with what advice you are seeking for us to be able to answer.
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