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Any advice here folks would be very much appreciated as im in a mess that is unbelievable !
My recent ex who i finished with is pregnant with my child has made contact with a previous ex who im in the middle of a court case involing access to my other kids and they have teamed up and made a load of false allegations towards me that resulted in the police arresting me and a poosible court case next year because of this !
Obviously the ex who is pregnant with my child must be so angry and pissed off that she feels i abandoned her while preganat but i made her aware i wouldnt have the child go through life without his or hers father when the kid is born ..
But to go and then make contact with a previous ex who has made historical allegations towards me and then team up to make brand new allegations is horrible and its obvious to me that these two girls are so pissed off that i dare end things with them that they are now out to destroy me ...
I guess my question is , does every arrest for allegations of domestic violence end up in court in front of a jury or a judge ?
Or can it be dealt with in another way or maybe even not make a court case if the crown thinks its not worthy of the courts time !
I have no previous at all and the allegations from my first ex have been heard in court before and a barr report cast doubt on the allegations !
But obviously my now pregnant ex with an axe to grind cos im not with her anymore .. has made contact with my first ex ( they didnt even know each other until a month ago ) and its now a team affort to destroy me and so they can raise the kids without there father !
Its gona get really messy before this is sorted i feel 🙁
Christ almighty mate, double trouble or what?
I wouldn't worry too much mate if there's no proof and you haven't done anything then there's no way you'll get done for anything and unless there is sound proof the courts won't take it seriously my EX done the same but they questioned why she never reported it to no one at the time, at the end of the day the courts will bend over backwards for a father to see his children they really do stick to the letter of the law and in the end you will get contact.
In the mean time just concentrate on your case try not to let it all get to you and don't give either ex any more ammo keep communication to a minimum don't reply with any threatening texts emails fb messages phone calls or nothing as one little mistake could get you banged up for the night as she's already made the allegation to the Police.
Did the Police caution you how did they leave it?
mate the arrested me ! my first ex has dragged up stuff that has already been in front of a judge and a barr report questioned her and if this went on why did she never call the police etc ... as she had plenty of opportunity to !
My second ex has said i punched her on the hip while in bed and that i said to her i was going to jump off a couch on to her belly while pregnant ... total utter lies !!!!!!
Obviously my recent ex is pregnant and her emotions will be all over the place but to go and contact my other ex AFTER i walked out and the fact they didnt even know each other till a few weeks ago ... is so apparent to me they have doubled up now cos they have both been woman scorned by me and its revenge time !!!
But the fact i got held overnight in the cells and im out on bail ( no previous ) makes me think where the [censored] is all this going .... couldnt handle the jail but im sure it wont get to that but its the fact if if they make something stick then they will be able to justify there horrible actions to the kids later on when they grow up and its in black and white for the kids to see !
Im just hoping it wont go as far as a court hearing / trial and that its seen for what it is ... !
My first ex ... well im already in the middle of a court case with her as she stopped my access to the kids and i was only a few weeks from gettting them out of the contact centre and taking them out on my own and i think she has seen this as a chance to use this to her advantage to put a stop to that !
surely the courts will see that as my ex has cast all this stuff up before and it got her nowhere that they will see its her way of yet again trying to keep a father from his kids ... but could have done without my most recent ex making contact with her and them both empowring each other with each others lies about me ...
It's al hear say no concrete proof it's all just allegations with no basis no need to worry just concentrate on fighting a good case when they ask you in court just tell the truth and deny everything, there's not a lot you can do about it they have teamed up now and you can't change that and expect more [censored] to come your way the courts are going to be more concerned about the children and you need to be let your ex's get on with it and focus on the Kids
Thanks mate 😉 really appreciate the time you took to get back to me
My ex said the reason she stopped me from seeing the girls was because I abused and hit her eldest daughter and neglected mine and beat up my two nephews, quite serious allegations and the first thing caftwats the courts and social services said was have you any proof? did you report it to the police when it happened? did you contact social services? why did you stop contact a month after the incidents took place? Straight away it looked like she had made the allegations up maliciously just to get back at me for taking her to court and I'm sure it will be the same situation for yourself
Its great to hear that you came through it mate 🙂
There are a few things that worry me about my situations ... such as ...
My most recent ex who i walked out on while pregnant with our child .. is now saying i hit her on the hip and then saying i was gona jump on her belly while pregnant ! she now says this after we have broke up and its obvious to me that after making contact with my ex and knowing what ive been through with my other ex and she sees this as my abandonment of her while pregnant .. And she is now gona follow in her footsteps and make me pay just like my other ex did ... the thing is tho she knows after fighting for my other kids so much that even tho im not gona be there for her while she goes through the pregnany... i will never allow any child of mine to grow up with his or hers father ... but i guess ive been fooled again and its another pissed off angry lass who is out for revenge cos i ended things with her ...
Surely to god the judge or whoever that will look at all this will see that with my first ex , that i took her to court cos she stopped access and that she has brought all this back up again cos my most recent ex has got in contact with her after we break up and cos she is also out for revenge .. they have teamed up to bring me down !
My first ex has said she has witnesses .. such as her wee sister and her two best mates .. my god surely thats gona be seen as biased as they will say anything to back her up as they never liked me anyways and the feeling was mutual !
And my most recent ex .. there are no witnesses to her lies as she hasnt given any !
There must be about 18 charges in total being thrown at me but its laughable when you look at them ... things like me stepping on my fiirst ex's toes while in her company is one of them .... [censored] ?!!!!!
I even have a barr report from an independent lawyer that says , regarding my first ex and all her allegations towards me ... that if all this went on why did she not raise them to the police, the social services , doctors etc...
The bottom line mate is ive been so stupid as to have children with two girls that dont want there children to have there dads in there lives because i ended things with them ... my god that isnt a crime ... as long as ive not and never leave my childrens lives you think that would be all that mattered to them ... but it doesnt !
Do you think the courts will be able to suss this all out with background social services reports that have questioned my first ex and her motives in the past ... and also the way my most recent ex who is pregnant , contacts my ex .. then bang uses her tactics against me ... will be seen for what it is ?
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No one can predict what the system will order and like I've said in previous posts you have to put all the false allegations and what both your EX's will or wont do on the back burner, they will almost certainly be more allegations ect getting thrown your way and you can't do anything about it, you're going to have to but all that [censored] on the back burner concentrate on the case you have got going on at the moment sack off what your EX's are doing and concentrate on your flesh and blood because at the end of the day this is what it's all about.
You really need to focus completely on the Children and prove to the System why you should be involved in their lives if you become to hung up about your EX this will show through in court and it will not look good, keep it all child focused.
The courts see this BS day in day out and they will suss whether she's telling the truth through SS report Caftwats reports and Police reports you can't do anything to prove to the courts you haven't done what they have said so stop worrying about it and concentrate on the Children 🙂
The Courts and Caftwats will always promote a child to be involved with his Child and they do just that (even though they don't seem to)
It's also a waste of energy worrying about will they do this or will they do that just make sure you obide by what the courts tell you to do jump through all the hoops tick all the boxes and don't complain is about as much advice as I can give you.
My ex was shouting and screaming at the last hearing saying I'm controlling that I abused my step daughter and her nephews the Judges didn't want to listen and told her all that had been dealt with they were more interested on moving things forward with regards to seeing my daughter and thats the way you have to play it, it's all about moving things forward for the sake of the children 🙂
Thanks again mate 😉 Just worried an all that as ive never been through this kinda stuff before and hopefully in the end the courts will be able to see that its individuals out there with a massive grudges against me for daring to end things with them and they just dont want there children to have there father involved in there lives !
Child focused it is then 😉
And i think i will stick to the single life for now lol
Yeah man and invest in a truck load of Durex like me! :woohoo:
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