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When i left the marital home i gave the ex a list of items i wanted to take to furnish my flat, Anything else left behind (mainly in the garage and the loft) would be collected at a later date when i can accomodate the items.
Although my separation has been a long drawn out affair some of my property is still there due to her not selling the house and her not having an issue with it.
Cut a long story short:
I phoned her mid december to collect my 5ft gas welding bottle from the garage as my dad had found a place to store it, I have had this for around 3yrs and bearly used it. At the time of purchase i also got my ex's brother the same type of bottle due to getting them cheap though works account with BOC gases.
She said "what gas bottle" Knowing dam well what i was on about!.........She said her brother had disposed of it at the local tip as it nealy fell on one of the kids when they put their bikes away. I must add this bottle was secured at the back of the garage and behind loads of junk and no way was it accessible by the kids. (last checked end of november) Im fuming over this as to replace (bottle is used as a deposit with boc) it would cost £210
Now i know this bottle will be sat in her brothers garage now as he uses the same stuff, There is no way it was empty as it would have lasted me years plus the fact it had a £60 regulator connected to it (again my property) They are both lying and i know it!!!
My solicitor has contacted hers and yesterday i had a letter telling my he had disposed of due to issues mentioned above and that i was aware ot this at the time. I only became aware when i phoned to collect it. if she could phone her brother (we were talking at this point) why couldn't she have phoned me "thats because he wanted it of course" and knew its worth!
So i have two options
1, contact BOC as they don't take lightly to people having their property without an account (i had it as good will from work with intention of returning once empty) I would have to foot this bill now.
2, Report to the police as theft but i doubt they would be interested in domestic issues?........But he still has my regulator of which she said he would return?
I will go to the local tip after work and ask the guys there as a 5ft gas bottle (if disposed) would be easily remembered.
My solicitor said she has no right to dispose of any of my property and any issues that may be of concern then i should be contacted 1st. Nothing of joint property has been disscussed as yet untill we go to mediation or via our solicitors.
Any info on this matter appreciated.....................pete.
Hi Pete,
I think you have summarised the situation well and seem to have boiled it down to a couple of options.
At Dad Talk we can get expert advice for Childrens Legal situations and for those with financial difficulty.
I can understand how frustrating (understatement) this would be, and can imagine myself being uncertain how to proceed to achieve what you think is fair and just. I hope you manage to deal with this in a way which doesn't give you lots of stress with little outcome. Perhaps this has to just be put down to experience to prevent yourself becoming very bitter.
It is possible that other Dad Talk members have interesting opinions.
I hope it works out.
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