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Just as I'm moving from House Husband back to corporate worker my wife, a who carried on her corporate career as I did all and everything for our two girls, wants to divorce. I've been the primary carer for our two daughters for the past 6 years - they're now both at primary school. I want to have a minimum of 50% if not more time with them - i.e. resident parent - as I go back to full time work - my soon to be ex-wife will continue her job but is saying she might take a leave of absence from work as part of her 'legal strategy'.
Friday is our first mediation appointment. I fail to qualify for legal aid so, please, advice needed.
Thanks
Hello again AK47,
I'd love to have an 'initial assessment' - all help gladly received just tell me how to get this advice, please.
Best
From what I know the normal is for each of you to be able to meet on your own for upto an hour with the mediator before you then meet together with the mediator.
This is the initial assesment that sees if mediation is suitable for the problems and also you can take along pay slips etc and they will see if you qualify for free mediation.
Hi there Father Kit
What usually happens with mediation is that the person who first approached the mediation service has a meeting with the mediator to discuss the issues and reasons that mediation is needed. The other person is then invited to attend to discuss it from their perspective. Once these meetings have happened the mediator would then invite both parties to attend together and with their guidance talk things through and hopefully reach an agreement. Heres a link to the mediation service ~ www.nfm.org.uk
Have a look at their website, you will find some useful information about what to expect and I think theres a frequently asked questions page.
Good luck with everything 🙂
Hi, what usually happens is you both go to a seperate assessment, then you both go together at a later date. why are you going to mediation.
The first appointment can be about hour and a half and its not cheap, £150 maybe more
I asked my ex wife to go to mediation on numerous occasions so i could get contact with my boy but she refused. I was offered mediation on my own but could not understand the logic if she wouldnt mediate.On my solicitor's guidance i applied to court for a contact order section 8 but before i could do this i had to go to a mediator for her to sign the paper's to say mediation was not taking place ,she relieved me of £105.00 signed the paper and sent me on my way, having done this i was then able to apply to the court for a contact order. According to my solicitor no court will listen if you havent at least tried or have proof of trying mediation.That was some months ago and on the 11th of November i gained a contact and staying order to see my son every other weekend after 11 months of my ex letting me see him when she decided. NEVER GIVE UP.
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