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So I left my wife after 11 years of a abusive marriage, mental, controlling and a bit of physical thrown in.
for me the marriage was over for years and I was just there for the kids. Yes I started talking to someone else very soon after as in weeks but I was no longer with her so it’s of no concern to her what I do and after the years of upset I deserve the chance to be happy…..
I walked away from the house that I own and had before I got with her and continue to pay the mortgage, council tax and give £150 a week… not enough even paying for therapy for her to try and get to to be able to act like a normal human being.
wll I am now being accused of cheating on her which is not true and this being th reason for the breakup…. Simply not true….. not ideal timing admittedly but it’s not her concern.
I have years of abuse sent to me on my phone and I mean years of it, as has my parents who she pushed to a breakdown….. she ain’t exactly the brightest, she has now been in the ear of my 9 year old to the point he no longer wants to see me, has sent me and this girl extremely abusive voice notes as in to the level that would raise concerns with social services.
she is now saying that she is leaving the house to go to a different area…. The environment that caused a lot of her mental health issues, making my kids homeless and significantly worse off financially. Let alone me actually seeing them.
I am fearful that she is going to mess my child’s head up as much as hers is.
over a 24h period I received 140 text messages from her
hi,
sorry to hear about your situation. 140 messages in a day is very excessive. if its causing you stress and anxiety then maybe you should report it to police as harassment. maybe she will calm down in 1 or 2 weeks time. when was last time you saw child?
@bill337 2 weeks ago now, she is filling his ears with all sorts of horrible stuff to the point where he hates me now
@dadof2582385 ok. if she is brainwashing child then that can be classed as emotional abuse, and you should consider reporting it to children's services. do you think your ex is open to mediation, to sort child arrangements? you can try invite her to it. if it can not be sorted out between you both, there is option to take legal route, but recommend that only as last resort.
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