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Good day,
My ex-wife is trying to force me into discussing kids-related queries with her new partner, but firstly refused mediation to get things sorted.
I am very patient and open person, but I am not willing to discuss anything with someone who say to me that I am not allowed to pick my kinds from school or I don't have to know where the kids are going (abroad) for holiday.
Am I right saying what I was already advised?
[…] Your ex-wife’s new significant other has no parental rights – no right to determine where your kids go to school, the activities in which they participate, or what sort of medical treatment your kids should receive. Those are decisions that should be made by the parents jointly, or by one parent who has been granted sole legal custody by the court […]
Please let me know what your thoughts are on this?
That's correct, if you don't want to talk to a relative stranger about your children, then you don't have to.
However I would say, that if he is living in their family home, it's probably better for the children if you develop a civil relationship with him.... it's a difficult situation, accepting that another man is sharing the care of your kids, but if he is to feature in their lives in the long term, it would be in their interests if you work out a way to work with him, but certainly, he shouldn't be dictating terms with you.
All the best
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