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I hope this is the right place to post this...
11 years ago I split from my first wife. We agreed a non formal maintenance setup for the two kids. I wanted her to have a roof and no worries so I gave her my half of the house and profit (£40k). I also agreed to pay her an inflated maintenance of £500 for 4 years until the youngest went to school after which that would drop to £250 for the remaining lifetime of the maint payments, the idea being I would suffer short term to make sure she was and the kids were ok and benefit later from reduced payments. She also let me take two endowments as they were ' worthless' in her words which I have paid for monthly since. I have not missed a payment and have stuck to my side of the deal up until this month. The first endowment is up and I need her to sign it over to me to get the money released. Over the years she has tried changing the childcare arrangements, i.e. she wants me to have them more in school hols etc which I have done my best to accommodate with my shifts etc. In January she asked me if I would use some work holidays to have my kids for a week so she and her new husband can 'spend some time together'. Obviously this got me a little angry as it's not my job to make sure they have quality time together and I refused. Now she won't sign the endowment papers because I refused and she is threatening to call in the CSA which will push my payments much higher. Why she has to be so vindictive after 11 years is beyond me. Who is in the wrong here? Me for not using my work holidays for her benefit or her for not signing the papers? What can I do?