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I need some advice on how to proceed.
A little background.
I got away from my ex wife nearly a decade ago. We are divorced and even though I tried to do things in a kind way regarding child access, my ex-wife did everything to keep her promise of financially destroying me. Every time i stepped into that court room a further allegation came to light, these including, beating my children up, while on social services supported contact visits, running prostitution rings, and devil worship.
In the end social services in their documentation to court, stated that my daughter was a victim of parental alienation and that my ex-wife lied to court among many other things. Within the process, the judge even had my ex-wife psychiatric evaluated and my child also evaluated to see what damage was done. In the end I got my child access order granting me 3 weekends out of 4 giving access to my kids and allowing me to be a father in their lives. The other side of the coin, every game she played cost me more and more, I lost my job at the time and went into debt management for over £20k
Ex-wife has of coursed loved me in debt management for years, but she did not realise that before christmas, due to many years on the old pot noodle, scrimping and saving all debtors are paid off and I am finally clear after 6 years. I turned round in January and married my new partner.. This is where the brown stuff hit the fan, of course mum would not allow my kids at the wedding.. I am sure many know the drill.
So of course this was mentioned early December.. child access was cut against court order due to "ice warnings" on clear roads and the kids lost their christmas. Ex-wife starts demanding more monies.. etc which she is not entitled and Jan 1 she takes me to CSA. Communication stops between me and mum and she has become quite nasty and vindictive, with such games as now i am in small claims for a couple of hundred quid she feels she is owed between her request and csa kicking in.
The kicker.. A professional couple friends of mine and the wife, are considering moving back to the UK and there has been talk of doing a house share. This has not happened, they have a daughter the same age as mine and I thought it would be fun for my daughter to get to know (15). me and the wife and my friends are considering doing a house share so we can rent a really nice house together, giving lots of space and a better quality of life. My ex has heard wind of this, and now the sky has fallen.
1) ex-wife is claiming that my non-verbal son who has separate access to my daughter cannot come to my home, because this is now a "safe guarding issue".
2) That she is having me investigated and that professionals have told her to ban my child visiting my home?? but i have had no letter, spoke to social services they know nothing of it.
3) she will not inform me who these "professionals" are, and just keep stating i should go and get legal advice. This is to cause cost and to kill off my honeymoon, which is meant to be later in the year.
4) she knows that no one is living at my home, but this is the excuse to deny access and cause me suffering.
5) my daughter has let me know, that mum has sewn an airtag into my son's coat to track me and is filming me on contact. She is constantly tracking my daughters phone on her contact with me.
She is in breach of court order of course.
So finally my questions
1) 7 years after a court order was granted here in the UK, are statements submitted by social services, and the psychiatric report sealed or can they be made public. I wish to use these to fight my case and in mediation, etc.
2) What is the cheapest way to kickstart the access again.
3) Anyone got advice, on next steps.
Regards
Sheff Dad
Hi. If she is breaching order then mediation is skipped if your going to make enforcement application. It's c79 form. Costs £232
If you are going to self represent, which is possible, there are helpful guides to the process on the advicenow.org.uk website
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