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ex trying to move 45 miles and brainwashed kids to say they want to. its to live with her partner and she says its better for kids. been to court waiting for cafcass. what are the chances that she wont be allowed and instead have to have 50:50? court order says i have them 2-3 times a week (each week changes) atm. i want 50:50 now and her to stay. if not i want full custody and she can see them 2 weekend a month.
How old are the children you have with her. It may be possible to stop her moving as moving 45 miles just to live with her boyfriend isnt really a valid reason. Its disrupting children seeing their father
thank you thats good to no. she says its because she has no friendd where we live because its where all my family are not hers but she chose to move there so. she says she cant afford to live near me and if she moves she can proper work and kids wont go to childcare anymore and stuff. i still see them the same day but i dont think they should move school so i said no. what do i need to do to stop her or what should i tell cafcass
and if they tell her she cant can they say i now get 50:50? i think i need that so she doesnt try again
hi,
you should explain to cafcass/court all the reasons why moving the kids away would not be in
their best interests, like they are settled here in school, changing schools will disrupt their education. all their friends, family based here and the kids have a good support network.
look up the welfare checklist and base your arguments around it:
https://childlawadvice.org.uk/information-pages/the-welfare-checklist/
You can ask cafcass about 50/50 and is that something they would recommend. I hear it's difficult for dads to get. you would have to demonstrate to cafcass how are you going to manage 50/50 with your work, doing school runs, taking kids to doctors appointments, communicating with your ex etc.
In my experience, a court is unlikely to prevent the mother moving but will work with you to try and reach an agreement for contact around the new circumstances. Of course you can apply for 50/50 or for the children to reside with you and have contact with the mother & if you can't agree, the court will have to make the decisions for you.
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