[Solved] Ex threatening to stop contact...

Hi, With PR you can of course contact a medical practitioner - if concerned for your child's well-being...same related to school as well.

The reality is some ex's threaten contact being stopped if something is done that they do not like.

Now at what stage have you got to? Just threaten or actually prevented from seeing your child now as a result of your initiative?

Just a threat at moment....
As much as I would be devastated with contact being stopped, I cant help but think this would be her undoing.

I recently had became worried about my childs weight some months ago.
I attempted to address this with my ex partner cordially but was ignored constantly.
My child had stated some of the foods they were consuming on a regular basis.

During my own appointment, I requested that the doctor carry out a bmi on my child (discreetly of course)
The results confirmed that they are 'very overweight'

When I then contacted my ex to advise her of the results and ask that she reviews the current diet, I have now been threatened with all contact being stopped because I took child to doctor without her permission.

I have equal parental responsibility and tried no less than 7 times to discuss this prior to doc visit.

Can anyone please help or advise??

Surely having parental responsibility neccesitates the need for me to contact a medical professional if I have concerns about my daughters health?

Does my ex have a leg to stand on here??

Thanks

I have the same concerns and took my children to the doctors on Friday , as like you I have asked my ex so many times and formally in writing to try and help address the issue as now my child is in the 99th percentile - my ex doesn't understand this means our child out of 100 is 99th biggest and in terms of long term health this really is worrying, especially as it's only been the past year my ex is now using this against me and in her statement says I am obsessed with my children's weight and I am causing them a complex like you I keep things discreet and we measure health no weight the W word is never mentioned and when I wrote to her I stated this please don't ever mention W as this could lead to problems now I am having it used against me .... I have wrote it as one of my concerns to the court and her not acknowledging it as a problem I feel will go against her, the doctor stated that yes our child is overweight but can be sorted with diet and exercise and when explaining the issue he said well I think your hard work is being undone .... now this is the part I hate to say but I do think my ex is doing it on purpose honestly I think she takes pleasure in it .... just my opinion as she smiles at me when I talk to her about it and says not a problem it's in my head I am a weirdo ( don't talk directly anymore )

like you I can take my children when ever I feel the need to the doctors and it was revealed that our child had not been weighted since 2 years old - nearly 7 years

so sad they can't see it's not a direct attack on them but a need to care for your children and address any concerns and work together so your child doesn't suffer,
I feel so bad about this situation as I can't see it getting any better if I don't' get residency and it will have so much effects on our child i's heart-breaking your doing the right thing.

Is this not classed as neglect? At the very least, I would hope that SS would intervene to monitor, and wasn't there something in the news recently about the possibility of overweight children possibly being taken away from the parents?

Is this not classed as neglect? At the very least, I would hope that SS would intervene to monitor, and wasn't there something in the news recently about the possibility of overweight children possibly being taken away from the parents?

That's what I feel - I have been trying to find an article on this but have not managed to find a uk one to state about the neglect,

My child according to the BMI chart is 18-20lbs over weigh for a 8 year old that is a mass amount, it's so difficult to combat when I feel that the mother sabotages our efforts to improve our child's health ..

she has wrote in her statement I am obsessed the children have NO health issues. .... I feel guilty saying about it I know it's still taboo to talk about children's weight

difficult just hope the magistrates see I only want was is best for our children don't want to label them

This may be the article I was thinking of:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2569922/More-70-morbidly-obese-children-overfed-parents-taken-care.html

Is this not classed as neglect? At the very least, I would hope that SS would intervene to monitor, and wasn't there something in the news recently about the possibility of overweight children possibly being taken away from the parents?

That's what I feel - I have been trying to find an article on this but have not managed to find a uk one to state about the neglect,

My child according to the BMI chart is 18-20lbs over weigh for a 8 year old that is a mass amount, it's so difficult to combat when I feel that the mother sabotages our efforts to improve our child's health ..

she has wrote in her statement I am obsessed the children have NO health issues. .... I feel guilty saying about it I know it's still taboo to talk about children's weight

difficult just hope the magistrates see I only want was is best for our children don't want to label them

I worked out that my ex is responsible for 82% of my daughters meals.
Aside from the days I have contact - Sunday, after school Monday, Tuesday - I have no idea of my daughters diet or activities.
When Sunday rolls round again, I can hardly expect a 7 year old to recall her meals and activities (lack of)