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I've posted about this before, but having collected my thoughts a bit more, I thought I'd try again a little clearer.
So, my ex sent me a message last week letting me know that she's planning to move to Brazil for somewhere between 3 years and forever to live with her new fiance (who will on their arrival, get married) and his family. She says that he is going back to finish his university course and then from there they will decide what they are doing.
I am understandably quite opposed to this idea. I don't have the finances lying around to go to Brazil to see my son more than maybe...once or twice a year if I'm very lucky so it would basically mean I would miss seeing or raising my son which would break me completely.
I've done a bit of research and set up a meeting with a solicitor for this friday to discuss my options and chances of actually preventing this or doing anything about it at all.
Does anyone have any advice or experience where it comes to specific issues orders for emmigration? I'm really at a loss here and don't know how likely I am to have a chance or if there are any other options to consider outside of expensive court battles. I've wracked my brain for a middle ground solution, but can't think of anything besides 'She goes with my son, I'm left here with little to no contact' or 'She stays, hates me and makes life difficult but I get to see my son.'
Thanks in advance for any help.
Some additional info on circumstances:
We have had an informal agreement where it has come to child support and contact. Paying more/less as required and being fair and flexible with contact as required by either side.
She has no career to speak of, and does not speak Portuguese so would likely find it hard to find work there.
She has never been to Brazil before, and is planning to go out there blind.
She has a solicitor advising her on what to do, and is going to apply for a residence order and a specific issues order.
Hi again
all the things you mention will be considered by court.
Have another look at the Custody Minefield link on Leave to Remove I sent to you. You will be able to find case law there that should answer many of your questions.
Unfortunately, nobody can predict what a court will decide but certainly plans are supposed to be well thought out solid, it doesn't sound like they are in your case.
Please feel free to ask for any advice we can help with.
Good luck.
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