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Hello Forum,
I split up with my ex a year ago and have been living in a shared flat 25 miles away.
I have a six year old daughter who lives with her mum and I have her at least a night every weekend, and see her a night in the week.
I have recently moved in with a new partner; however my ex has now stated I can’t have my daughter to stay in the same house as my new partner and her 5 year old son.
I disregarded this request and had her stay with me and my new partner on another weekend, the children get on very well and we had a lovely weekend together. (My ex has never met my new partner) My ex has now stated I can only have supervised visits with my daughter and that the weekend I have planned to visit my family 100 miles away with my daughter is not allowed.
I have tried to contact my daughter via phone for the last 3 nights but my ex is ignoring all my calls, / messeges. even though she is posting to facebook every 5 mins
I have parental responsibility (named on birth certificate) and we have no court orders currently in place. I was wondering where I stand with my ex dictating my living situation, only allowed supervised visits with my daughter and not allowing me to visit my family with my daughter who she is very close with.
Any advice would be well received, sick with worry at the moment 🙁
Thanks
Alex
Unless you have a court order then she can dictate.
You may wish to consider medition and if that does not work requesting contact or residency via a C100 to the courts.
Regards,
Dave
take a look at this link with regards to mediation in your area - www.nfm.org.uk - it should help you find someone.
Others will post and may have better advice, mine is a quick response as working.
Regards,
Dave
Hello,
It sounds as if your ex is trying to control you after your breakup. So she is having difficulty letting you go.
Of course she has no right to tell you where you can/cannot take your daughter. That would be the same as you telling her who your daughter can/cannot see.
Perhaps you could write her a formal letter, asking her for the resoning behind this and then go on to reassure her that you have your childs best interest at heart and would never ever place her in any danger whatsoever.
After that you would have to persue the legal path if she continues to frustrate your efforts in having a relationship with your daughter.
If you need anymore help we are all here for you.
Brian
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