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Hello,
After a long time not being allowed to see my daughter i now have a working agreement with my ex with a view to increasing contact. She is offering me two hours contact a month and insists it happens on a Saturday afternoon when she know I'm at work. It's a new job in retail and there's no one who can cover so it's really difficult.
She says it's 'inconvenient' for the family for it to take place at any other time but I feel that whilst it's only two hours a month it's unreasonable to stipulate it has to be when i'm at work.
I don't have money to pay for a solicitor at the moment.
Any thoughts?
Hi unless you can agree between yourselves, then the only route is to try mediation & possibly court. Attempting mediation is mandatory before being allowed to make a court application. If you can agree at mediation, any agreement made there is not legally binding unless you ask the court to make the memorandum of agreement into a consent order.
It is entirely possible to attempt mediation and court without a solicitor, many of our members have done exactly that, with great success! The courts are used to dealing with people representing themselves and it's not as daunting as it seems.
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Good luck!
2 hours a month!!! Does that sound fair your the father but I'm the background the aunties and grandmother's on her side see the baby everyday
Go to court you will see your child weekly of you do shifts maybe you have relatives that can do pick ups or drop offs to work round it
Hi,
I have worked in management in hospitality for many years. Fathers who want time off for visits do have the right to get specific days and time off to see their kids, and if we want to rescind or change the time off we need to give them 6 weeks prior notice. Now i dealt with this in 2008, and im pretty sure the law has not gone backwards. If you tell your new boss the situation im sure they would understand, even if its taking the 2 hours of in between your shift. No decent boss would stand in the way of that.
A while back i worked for a wife beating alcoholic in a london pub, and after a week of being there he even gave me time off to attend court and what not.
Try harder to get the time off .
Good Luck
Paul
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