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Hi
Just looking for abit of advice with regards to my ex partner looking to move away with my Daughter and what if anything I can do to possibly stop it?
So basically me and my ex partner split up just over a year ago, my daughter is now two and her mother has moved on which is well within her right and I’m happy for her. However she is now talking about moving over an hour away, I pretty much see my daughter every other day and if this move happens the access will go down to one weekend every two weeks. My ex has denied me access on a couple of occasions in the past, demanded more maintenance which I pay just generally been hard work.
Now she is with someone new I get the access I want it’s like I’m dealing with a complete different person but now she wants to move away which means I’ll go from seeing my little girls every other day to once every two weeks and I’m dreading the day this happens!
So I’m just looking for some advice please
All you can do is apply to court for a child arrangement order so she can’t mess you around re access and apply for a prohibitive steps order to try to stop them moving away .. I think in reality everyone’s access changes. It’s not right but it’s what happens . It’s dohbtful you’ll get an order to see your kids as much as you’d i now from what I’ve learned
Hi there
As you acknowledge moving on from past relationships is everyone’s right, it’s sad that this can sometimes lead to parents moving away.
You mention that they’re moving over an hour away, to be honest, I don’t think the court would stop the move based on that kind of distance.
The courts are loathe to stop the free movement of a person and usually the only way to stop a move within a jurisdiction is if it can be proven that the move is done maliciously to prevent contact, or the move isn’t properly planned for and there is uncertainty about accommodation, schooling etc.
It might be a good idea to try mediation, to discuss contact if the move goes ahead. Maybe every weekend and half of all school holidays... it’s about what is best for your children and cutting their contact with you will be upsetting for them at first, if she’s a good mother she will realise that, hopefully and work with you to find a solution.
All the best
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