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Hi,
I am a divorced dad, the main carer (55%) before separation but now the reverse.
3 week pattern in place (week 1/2/3, repeating) except school holidays (I get half summer holidays). In each 21 day period, I have my son 10 days, though 8 nights.
There is a strong chance my ex-wife will seek to move to another city to be a with a new man. My son has been very upset about this and I have told my wife about this. She has simply told him off for discussing her boyfriend with me and now he has become very closed off when with me.
I want to protect my son and wondering what I can do. He is born and brought up in Newcastle and doesn't want to move to Leeds. My ex will no attend mediation saying there is no agenda. I feel she had emotionally abused him over time, but her texts and emails are ultra whiter than white and often paint me in a bad light. Struggling to protect my son and myself.
Please advise
Thanks, R.
Hi there R
Mediation is now compulsory before any court action. Whether she wants to attend or not, if you have an issue then it's procedure to turn to mediation to try and sort it out. She can of course refuse which then allows you to get the appropriate forms signed off by the mediator to submit to court.
www.nfm.org.uk
Legal aid is still available for mediation and you can check eligibility here
www.gov.uk/check-legal-aid
The order that would best suit your needs is either a Prohibited Steps Order or a Specific Issue Order and possibly form C1a if you feel there are risks to his well being.
The older your son the more weight his wishes and feelings will have.
I'm going to delete your other post as it is a duplicate, I shall also move this to the Legal Eagle section of the forum where it will be seen by more members...it's our busiest part of the forum!
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