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I have been concerned about my daughters weight for some time and despite encouraging healthy eating and exercise, she seems to be gaining weight.
I initially approached my ex partner about this a year ago and she advised she would take her to Doctor in September 2020 after some back and forth.
My ex advised the doctor stated this was down to a thyroid issue after having blood taken and would take further tests after 6 months (due to covid apparently)
She also stated that due to my daughter being a teenager and with lockdown etc, it's best not to discuss with her.
Now after I incurred a minor ailment and spoke to the Doctor on Friday, I inquired about my daughters next test.
He knew nothing about it... No appointment for my daughter about weight issues or thyroid issue. No blood taken. No further test scheduled.
Essentially my ex has lied to me and I am furious.
I have been encouraging exercise and promoting healthy food choices when I'm with my daughter and my ex claims she's been doing the same.
Do I have legal grounds to take this further?
If your daughter is significantly overweight (BMI) and it is medically impacting her health and your ex is not taking things seriously then yes you have grounds.
However, there are lots of things to consider and try before you even consider the legal route.
Your daughter is a teenager and kids have weight changes all the time. If you go down the legal route you could fall out with mother and thus daughter and she stops wanting to see you, the courts will not make her see you due to her age. Your relationship with mother could get worse and impact long term relationship with daughter.
Solutions could be, you speak to mother (politely) and you arrange to take daughter to the Dr in your contact time. You could try mediation with the mother.
If you are saying that the mother is just not encouraging healthy eating and exercise then unfortunately you wouldn't get far with the courts..
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