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Hi All,
So after 8 months of annoying emails from the ex informing me of everything that happens at the house she has finally gone and broke the contact order. Received email off her yesterday which i read today, stating she has concerns about safeguarding and i am not to collect the children. I went to the school anyway to find she had took them early through the office, i went by the house and knocked on to which i received a hurl of abuse.
She says Social services will be visiting my house.. I returned home and rang them they have definately had calls off the ex as SS mentioned that she was bringing herself up to date with the file. I mentioned i have previously been sent a no further action letter from them so i was confused to what SS had to do with it. SS tell me that its a private matter regarding contact and SS are happy their is no concerns from there end but she will phone the ex and remind her of what she is doing is wrong!.
So im wondering what to do should i leave it for today and try and resume contact next friday as per court order or do i just go straight in and send relevant papers to court (of which i have no clue) I do recall the court order stating that the case is active and can be brought back to court does that mean under the initial form? and fees may not be needed?. I ask as i was suspended from work yesterday so my future employment is also under threat at the minute.
It never rains but it pours!!. 🙁
Thanks for any advice!
If they have said it's still active, then I think that it would be under the same case with no further fees - it might be worth waiting to see what happens next week, though it might be worth getting the form from the court and filling it in ready to go.
Just been contacted by her saying will i be collecting the children next week!. I told her i had every intention of doing so, looks like she came to her senses after all.
Just another one for the log
Sounds hopeful 🙂
Keep a diary of all the times she breaks contact ect then if she carries on try writing to the court explaining what has happened and any evidence of her breaking the order, I thought I'd try that rather than going through the expense and ball ache of filling out an enforcement order and it worked a treat it's worth a try if the case is still active and you're ex may get a slap on the wrist to avoid any more hassle.
DeflatedH
Its all about Control....she lost it when you took legal action and the courts ruled you should have contact. she's trying to show you she can do what she wants and testing that you will back down and obey to her demands again.
do what i do these days.......use the "3 strike rule" on strike three contact the courts for guidance in the matter or go for Enforcement.
On strikes one and two.....don't respond negatively or agressively to her....ask her for clarification as to why she feel there is a risk and respond with the courts and SS Cafcass etc... (whoever involved) all agreed no issues with contact and that you woul drequest it continue in line with the court order....if you get abuse back then leave it....save it and file it for use at court.
On Two explain that if she prevents contact a 3rd time then you are left with no choice but to refer it back to court for enforcement and that she should think seriously and get advice as to the penalties that the courts could impose.
Strike three......reply to her....."OK thank you for the notification of no contact".......then get your email / letter off to court....send copis of the messages (Screen shots good) and ask the courts for imediate help to reinstate contact for the reasons given.
Good luck hopefully you'll not need to take it to the extremes i and others have had to but if you do there are plenty who can advise better.
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