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Hi people first time poster so im hoping im doing it right.
Long story short i had my son (2 years old) this weekend. When i dropped him off to the ex she accused me of neglecting him because his nappies were full of sand when she changed him, i said there might have been a possiblity to there being a little sand as we visited the park before dropping him off but i was suspicious to the extent of what she was accusing me.
3 days later out of the blue i get a text from her saying that our sons bottom was in so much discomfort from my neglect she had to take him to the GP to be prescribed some cream to help alleviate it.
This didnt sit right with me and i asked for a picture of the cream. needless to say all [censored] broke loose and the abuse started flying and threats of her not letting me see him started again.
After a couple of hours of abuse she finally sent me a pic of the cream. i was still suspicious as the cream was mainly for exzema which our son is currently suffering from but she stuck to her story that it was all my fault etc and continued her threats of not letting me have him again etc.
now i have parental responsibility and decided to not take the abuse lying down so I contacted the GP offices and spoke directly to my Son's GP.
he said that he saw my son that morning (AFTER my ex sent the initial message saying she had already seen the gp and had been prescribed cream!) and only saw him due to a flare up in his Exzema! i specifically asked him if there was anything wrong with my sons bottom and he said no!
i need some advice with the information i now have? my ex partner was blatantly lying to try make me look bad and all her threats were based on her lie. The entire conversation was via text message so it is all fully documented
she does not currently know i have contacted the GP and know the truth, but i feel i have to confront her and stop her from doing this again as this has not been the first time!,
last time she was angry with me (for not getting her own way) she accused me of giving our son severe sunburn because he had red face when i dropped him off (we exchange in a carpark and it was january so it was cold!).
any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Mike
Hi Mike
I think you need to start a diary and keep a record of this and anything else that arises. Screenshots of the txt conversations etc
As you have spoken to the GP it is in the open so perhaps a letter to her stating that due to your concern you had spoken to the GP and he was unable to confirm her version of events and indeed that he confirmed it was a flare up of his eczema with no sign of a problem with your sons bottom. It's important you have it in writing so that you have a record of it in case it escalates to court at some point.
Don't be confrontational but ask, in light of the information you now have, why she feels the need to try and disrupt contact for no good reason and point out that consistency is very important for your son, he needs to feel safe and secure and regular contact with you is a part of that. By withholding contact for no good reason she is not only punishing you but hurting your son too.
Ask her if there's anything you can both do to try and get on for the sake of your son, because it will become more and more important to him as he get older, he will be increasingly aware of any ill feeling between you and it will have a detrimental effect on him in the future.
If this can't be resolved then it might be helpful to attend mediation so that you can sit down with a trained mediator and discuss how to move forward. I mentioned court earlier but you must try and avoid this at all cost as the strain it puts on all involved is immense.
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