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I have had lots of problems with my ex over various things regarding my son. From her stopping me seeing him because he didn't want to go back with her, to her accusing me of stalking her - the day I was suppose to have my son and not being able to contact her, rang hospitals everything, to be told she was sleeping! The main problem I have which my solicitor didn't seem to be interested in was the fact my ex keeps moving my son's place of residence. He will be 5 in October and we would of split 4 years in August. Since my son has been born he has had 7 different homes (not through council, but through her moving privately renting). Ranging from 2 mins away to an hour away. He has also changed nursery/pre school now 5 times. This cannot be good for my son. He makes friends then he gets moved to a completely new area. He has a room and a house then he moves agains. There is no stability in his life. I am living in the family home, with my new family, paying the mortgage and bills, and have lived here for 8 years without any contribution from the ex (who's name is also on the mortgage). How would I go about stopping her constantly changing schools? How would I go about stopping her move residence upsetting my son? How would I show to the court that he would have a more stable and better life with his dad and new family? What are the chances of court agreeing that her way of life is unstable for my child?
Any help would be much appreciated.
Thanks
Hi there
As much as I understand and sympathise with you and your son, I must be honest and say that if there are no serious safeguarding issues then a court is highly unlikely to transfer residence to you. The reason your solicitor doesn't seem to be interested is probably because he knows that it won't carry much weight in court.
If the mother was neglecting him, or he was put in a position where he was at serious risk of harm then these would be the grounds that a court might consider.
All I can say is that once he starts school you may have more leverage to prevent her constant moves, we have just had a case on here where a dad was successful in challenging the mothers move.
Perhaps you should try and get an order for shared residence and more contact....that would be more realistic and would o strict her from continually moving areas.
Good luck
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