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Hi all
I am in desperate need of some legal advice. My partner and I split 3 years ago, we share parental responsibility for our 3 children, who I have stay with me Friday night to Sunday night and some nights during the week s required.
For Christmas my eldest was given a ticket to Harry Potter World (UK not Florida). We have arranged for her to go during the weekend over the Easter holidays. However, the ex is now kicking off saying she doesn't want her to go at all because of the "terrorist threat". I see no problem with her going as she will not be going on public transport and she will be accompanied by me at all times.
My question is, can the ex prevent her from going if it is during my time with her and I am not taking her out of the country.
Hi there
Quite simply, she can't stop you from taking your daughter on an activity in the UK during your time with her.
However if you don't have a court order of defined contact you may find that she will simply keep your daughter at the scheduled time to prevent her from going and there's nothing to stop her doing that if your contact agreement wasn't formalised in court.
Whilst to you and I her reaction may seem extremely irrational, it would be kind to try and reassure her about her concerns for your daughters safety. If she is adamant about her position you could try Mediation so that you can sit down with a trained third party and discuss it sensibly... If you involve an outside agency she may see how irrational she is being and agree to the trip...it would be much better to go with her blessing.
Best of luck
Hi there,
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I agree with Mojo, try and talk to your ex and try and reach an agreement to go, the last thing you want to do is go without her knowing and then have further issues over contact.
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Your ex is being over protective in her views, but they are her views I guess.
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But again as Mojo has said she can't dictate where you go when you have contact as long as you stay in the UK, when talking to your ex, use examples of maybe going to London or other big City's as actually I think there is probably a bigger threat in shopping centres rather than a theme park.
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GTTS
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