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I knew this would be the case........I have been told today that my ex has no intention of taking my Daughter to the contact centre so I can see her even though a Contact order was issued on Tuesday she has said she will never let my Girl see me and will just wait till the next hearing in 4 months then say she will allow contact again then do the same again.
She has been coached of her HV who used to be a DV officer and she has advised her to do this as she knows the Courts are powerless to punish the mother so I ask the question, what is the point of a court order in the first place?
I knew full well my ex would do this it's already been 8 months since I seen my 10 month old baby Girl It's looking like it will be yearas by the time I finally get to see her how can that be allowed to happen?
Heya matey - sounds a bit shite - just when it got good! There are a few threads here on breaking the contact order - it may be a case of either going to court tomorrow and asking for an emergency contact order or an enforcement order as she has openly (?written/documented) that she does not want to facilitate contact despite two days ago agreeing to do so in court.
In these cases where the hostility is so bad you may wish to apply for sole residence on the grounds of hostility and emotional abuse as this will probably mean that the judges have to consider to give you more contact. Try the 10K and if you complete the 5K your home and dry already.
BW
Boyce
PS DadIDad was an expert at this process
She has 28 days to enter the code online then she can extend that by another 36 days now she is getting coached off her health visitor who knows the system inside out she's just playing the game as she knows the courts will not punish her in any way I am well and truly screwed mate to the highest order there is absolutely nothing I can do π
She's just told her sister nothing written down.
Pardon my french but what a crock of s**t! How can this be allowed to happen? 28 days followed by a 35 day extension with no enforceable consequences? Makes a laughing stock of the entire system. I'm so sorry Slim, I guess that leaves you in limbo for almost another 2 months!
As it's an interim order, once her time limits are up are you able to apply for enforcement as that will leave you with another 2 months before the next hearing?
I suppose the only silver lining is that she won't do herself any favours with the court, especially after her conduct at the last hearing?
Sending good karma your way :unsure:
I would still go along to the contact centres when you are given your appointment to show that you are prepared to do all you can and it is your ex that is not complying and get them to record that she never turned up.
I feel so sorry for you as you were on such a high the other day but don't give up hope. One day she will do something significant and you can then act on it.
Right I've slept on it and here's my plan.............
I'm going to wait until the official court order comes through and if she still has not logged on to the contact centre site I will send her the code by recorded delivery and send a copy of that and the original letter and code to the courts.
I will wait another week and if nothing still then I will write to the court again requesting an emergency contact order and point out my ex is dragging her feet.
I've spoke to the contact centre manager and she has said they will start chasing her themselves in 2 weeks time.
At the end of the day I'm happy that everything is going my way I've got a brilliant relationship with my court and they are really helping me along now and they know I mean business doing the position statement and court bundle was a godsend so I'll keep on battling π
Sleeping on a problem is always a good thing, there's not a lot you can do except stick at it Slim. She can't keep avoiding it and the more she does the worse she will look to the court.
At least you have the contact centre working with you ...time is running out for your ex, she just doesn't realise it yet.
Would the person who gave you the information be prepared to make a witness statement about it?
Yeah I keep forgetting that the [censored] in my court now I think that's why my ex lost it so much in court on tuesday I've never seen anything like it she was seething with anger she must be slowly realising she's loosing control she is no longer the nice placid gentle caring girl she once was the drink has sucked all that out over her and all that's left is a bitter twisted witch.
You could tell towards the end of the hearing the court were getting wise to her lies it was ace I didn't have to say a word that bundle and position statement spoke volumes π
I'm just trying to get some more holiday booked in so I can go and chill in Ibiza again I need at least a week in the sun to get over the past 8 months of court I was so expecting the worst as thats whats happened all the way along so to get nothing but good news has thrown me I don't know how to take it all in.
It's her sister who told me so there's no way she will testify as my ex is using her just to look after the girls she's been warned if she speaks to me she will lose contact with the girls.
Had my first decent night sleep last night in a year but I'm still knackered gonna try and sort my flat out this weekend and do my paperwork as I've let everything slide big time
Slim π
If in doubt [censored] off to Ibiza to DJ π
See ya
Slim π
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