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Good afternoon
I am going to try and keep this as short as possible but I am in need of mediation with my ex partner , as she is being very difficult with visitation with my children.
My ex demanded sbout 18 months ago that I had my children every other weekend , which I allowed thinking she would see that it wasn't best for the children as they wouldn't see me very much as I work as a lorry driver which means I work many weekends. Well needless to say she wasn't very bothered about the lack of time they was spending with me , even tho the children complained to her. It was breaking my heart not seeing them properly so I wrote to work explaining my predicament and had countless meetings over it. Eventually work have given me a four week rolling rota allowing me every other weekend off. I phoned my ex and sent over my new rota which unfortunately falls the other weekends to which she originally set. I have asked her on many occasions to stop being so difficult and her response is go back to work and tell them to change it to the other weekend. She will not understand I work for a large company and it took me 6 months to get this rota changing it again is near on impossible. I really need help addressing this matter and a few others , all of this is not fair on the children please could you help?
Hi There,
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I would start the proccess for mediation, find one in your area or near to your ex if she isn't local to you, this would help with her hopefully attending.
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If during mediation you can't gain an agreement or your ex won't attend then you can get the court order forms (C100) signed and sent into court and you can apply to the family courts for some help.
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Frome what you have said you have done everything you can to gain an agreement from work to change your shifts to gain every other weekend and I can't see the judge not ruling in your favour.
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GTTS
Hi
You actually have what you need in your opening sentence, which is to go to mediation - try www.nfm.org.uk - if that doesn't work, then you can move on to court. Although it's difficult to predict exactly what a court will order, I would say that what you have done is perfectly reasonable and your ex is being anything but, so I would hope a court would tell her to be more accomodating to your schedule.
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