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After some advice..
I have 50/50 shared custody of my two daughters with my ex. She is going on holiday with her new partner and is refusing to allow our daughters to stay with me all week stating that her agreed nights are for her to sort out when she’s away! I have shared parental responsibility so presumed that’s with her unable to care for them (due to being away) that care would default to me!
im struggling to find info on this anywhere to support either of us…. Help please?
jon
hi,
is there anything in your court order that states where a parent is not available to care for children, then they must be offered/given to other parent? if not then not sure what else can be done, other than returning to court to sort it out, which I don't recommend.
@bill337 we don’t have a court order as we’ve agreed it amicably initially. My ex isn’t happy now I’ve met someone else even though she’s been with her partner 2 years now!
ive read that if I was to keep the girls on collecting from grand parents that legally nothing could be done as we don’t have court order but I don’t want to be like that.. just doesn’t seem right when im available to have them and I have them 4 days a week usually 🤷♂️
hi,
you could ask grandparents if you can have the kids. but if they under strict orders not to allow... no harm in asking I suppose. You have a very good arrangement and and it's great to hear that it didn't involve court proceedings. would suggest to keep the peace.
Do you have arrangements for holidays? What happens if you want to take the children away for a week? It’s good that you’ve managed to avoid court and hopefully that can continue.
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