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Hello again
Our review hearing is fast approaching and need some advice on letters and evidence.
I have had a message saying that my ex has written a letter to the courts. I have asked for a copy of this and she has said that I will get a copy of the letter at court on the day.
She has pulled this trick everytime we have been to court and it infuriates me!!
What are the exact rules regarding submitting letters and evidence and ALL parties receiving a copy in advance of the hearing?
I too have a bundle that I have requested permission to submit but am yet to hear back from the courts what should I do?! I am loathed to let her have sight of it and play her at her own game!!
Any advice??
Give the court a call and ask if there's been a decision on the permission to file. At the same time you can tell them that the other party is refusing to give you a copy of a letter they have filed with the court, until the day of he hearing, and ask if they are able to send you a copy, or contact her and tell her to. It's procedure to send copies of anything filed with the court to every party involved. At the same time.
Thanks Nannyjane
Is she not in contempt of court or anything for refusing to give me a copy?!?
It is so annoying!
Unfortunately no...because there are so many self reppers in the family law court system, they have to allow for this type of thing. Solicitors too get away with it though and they should know better..it's tactics, but very underhand IMO!
My son is waiting for his ex's statement from her solicitor, two weeks late up to now!
Thanks again
I have just spoken to the court and they have told me that I can expect a decision this week on my evidence being submitted so fingers crossed the Judge grants me permission.
I also asked about her sending documents etc and refusing to give me sight of them until we are at court and I have been asked to email with details etc explaining that this is a tactic that she has repeatedly used throughout our court hearings.
They will then seek to have whatever it is she has sent in served on me so that I have it well in advance. I have no doubt that she will be trying to undermine all the efforts I have put into our contact sessions so far and make out that I am failing as a father and that the children are not enjoying nor do they want increased time with me.
I aksed if there was anything that I could do or if she was doing anything wrong and was told that basically there is nothing I can do even though she is technically wrong to do it.
The system again stinks!!
I am sure if I played the same game and she complained it would be frowned upon!!
As you say, it would be frowned on - on the plus side, she really isn't doing herself any favour in court, and it's not going to give her any real advantage.
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