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Hi
I hope know one minds I am posting as a concerned partner of someone who is being denied access to his beautiful daughter and we are in need of some advice:
I will provide the short version of our dilemma.
My partner has a 3 year old daughter with his ex wife. After a long battle he finally received a court order to see his daughter which we were both so happy about. Unfortunately his ex wouldn't allow any contact to take place before this. We were hoping with the contact order and with the guidelines things would settle and he would be allowed to build a father daughter relationship with his daughter and be a positive influence in her life, we were wrong. After months of his ex partner not turning up for handovers, telling his daughter that we are nasty people (thank fully this didnt affect our relationship with his daughter) And his ex constantly changing dates and times he has had to make an application to the court as his ex has only let one visit happen in 3 months it is now 2 months since he has seen his daughter.
We received a copy of the application back along with a copy for his ex and it states we are to send this to her either by:
First class recorded delivery
Send to her solicitor
Hand deliver
We opted for the first option as she hasn't got a solicitor representing her any longer and hand delivery isn't an option as she refuses to speak to us.
He sent this through first class recorded delivery which needed to signed for but his ex sent it back to myself his partner and hasn't even opened it so is unaware of the court date for the directions hearing. Where do we stand with this? We are concerned because she is unwilling to accept any correspondence from my partner that if she doesn't attend court this will delay matters even further and his daughter will go even longer without seeing her
daddy.
Any advice would be appreciated.
I'm pretty sure that the courts have people who serve papers....try phoning them and asking how you stand...that'd be the first thing to try
Failing that hand delivery but have him take someone in authority along with him to "keep the peace" .......... the Police will help you in that if you ask them to attend with you. i had first hand dealings with the police on this and they said if i had to ever get something to my ex in person then they could arrange to acompany me to the address to "keep the peace" its the only way to properly protect himself.
It remains unserved unless it is signed for.
Unsure of where you are but in Scotland I used sheriff officers to serve it.
Hi I would do what Dad I d suggests, phone the court Monday and explain what as happened. We didnt have to serve ours the court did it . But I have read some where that if you send papers to the lat known address this is classed as papers being served, she has obviously received the papers just chose not to read them, very silly girl. Let us know how you get on
Thank you so much for all your advice, we will certainly call the court on Monday to see if they can serve the papers for us. Such a difficult situation, I can only assume she knows she is in the wrong and doesn't want to face the consequences in court, if only she could put there daughters needs first x
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