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Hi .
Any advice or experience of the enforcement process?
First FHDRA on 7th August . What can I except? How long does process take . What’s is the usual outcome of these applications?
Ex has stopped contact due to safeguarding concerns .
Also worth noting I haven’t been following the order myself ( Reduced contact down due to my son getting very upset , still not got to the bottom of it ) so technically I’ve ‘ breached ‘ order too . With this in mind will the courts penalise my ex if I have also breached ?
Thank you guys . Your advice is second to none 🙂
the hearing is a directions hearing, they'll hear your application, your reasons for why the enforcement of the order is required, then they'll hear her reasoning as to why she's stopped contact.
If she raises concerns that the court take seriously then the courts will order cafcass to do safeguarding checks and interview you both and file a report to court for a further hearing. 12-16wks that could be for cafcass.
the fact that you've not been following the order will likely be raised by your ex, at which point you will have to have a good answer as to why not, if it's that you can't cope with how upset your son is then you're going to need to find a way of addressing that with a good argument as to why you decided to reduce the contact.
How old is your son?
Is the upset at handovers? if so is she present? where are the handovers done?
Hi Thanks for the reply .
He is 4 and gets upset on handovers and whilst with me . The handover is at a local supermarket to reduce conflict etc and my ex does them with me .
We have sat him down and asked him why he doesn’t like coming to see me & he says it’s because he doesn’t like my partner or her older son . My ex , to be fair to her , has tried to help the situation rather than make it worse but he still is upset . I asked to reduce the contact as I felt alternate weekends would be better and to see if it would help him settle . It does seem to have stemmed from when I moved in with my partner .
My ex has contacted health visitors who reckon he’s being emotionally abused / bullied which is why she stopped contact - hence my enforcement application. I have also today received a C1 A form with all the allegations and also a witness statement of the childcare provider expressing her concerns as to how my son has changed emotionally. It says that he seems to be saying very worrying things about my new partner.
Do I stand a chance of getting order enforced?
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