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ok another night of walking the floor..I am so worried about what my Sons ex is saying to my Grandson..( He was visibly shaking at last contact told his daddy" i don't want you to take me away ") This is the 2nd time this has been said in as many weeks .
I have never in 3 decades seen my Son cry so much...He is so worried about the Damage the ex is doing to this Child
She also wont let him refer to him as daddy my grandson told his daddy " your not my Daddy you used to be but xx is my Daddy now"
With other things that are being said with no coaxing from my son its obvious she saying all sorts The 1 that has cut is " You dont know where we live" I can only imagine the ex has told Grandson " Dont tell the nasty man where we live or he will come and take you" Is my Grandson having Nightmares about this?
Our Solicitor has been in court for last 2 days and will have a no idea which way to proceed. They will as a matter of urgency get Solicitor to give us a Call in break today.
Ex will not promote Contact and my Son will never drag his son from his Mother just to get Contact.
After searching net all night i think it could be defined as emotionall abuse.
Any thoughts?
Hi Mom..
I have pm'd you.
Tc
Kirsten
After searching net all night i think it could be defined as emotionall abuse.
I have no doubt that is what is happening, that's appalling. Unfortunately, with such an attitude, I fear it will be a long battle - I think his ex needs to be made to go on a SPIP course, but even then, I'm not convinced she will listen or learn 🙁
Hi
Quick update.After a long discussion with Solicitor last night ( she had been in court last 2 days) we have agreed to let this weekends contact go as ordered my court.. If as we expect her to have done the little boy is scared and she is unwilling to promote a easy handover then she will be in breach.
As she is the problem with the contact sessions she will be getting a call today to She doesn't respond well to letters claims post man never brings her any)
A; remind her that she has a responsibility to their son to make this a easy transition.
B; Would it be best for someone else to do the Handover.( like her husband who she claims has a fantastic relationship with the Little one)
C; if she continues to frighten the Little one with remarks of XX will take you from me.( where as a court cannot prove she is saying it, a psychologist can) On Monday Commitall forms will be served with also a full residency application.
As for the Spip she was ordered to attend ..she refused.
I would still go for written rather than a conversation, I think you need the proof - send letters recorded, that way you have proof of delivery.
Well she really is 1 on her own..Solicitors calls last week resulted in i,m busy right now can you call back? Surprise surprise 5 unanswered calls..She really does not know when to stop digging her own grave.
Handover this week went as expected no contact session the child was yet again scared.
I think she has arranged the order in her own head so that it reads as long as you turn up it doesn't matter if you sabotage the contact session this will not be deemed in the courts as a breach
Committal forms sitting waiting will be in post tomorrow plus application for transfer of residency.
With her History in the courts and her blatant respect for the courts lets hope they sentence her to hard labour.
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