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So my court day is july 1st ..i ended application at start of year out of a moment of madness as i kept hearing my child did not want contact .i always believed childs view was not childs true wishes n feelings .but simply acting out what mom wanted .all professionals involve say my relationship with child was good and that contact should never been stopped however over time cafcass have sided with mom believed all the lies about me from mom with no evidence .however on fact and on paper it says mom is doing harm by not allowing child emotion permision to have a relationship with dad and on paper says should not stop contact in first place .but as time has gone on cafcass have made me do therapy and have reports done by psychologist doctors etc all saying i have a good relationship with child and both cafcass agree that it is the conflict between me n ex that us causing harm .my ex says this is not the problem and believes child is scared of me without really showing cafcass or professionals any evidence .so now moving on so since ending court a few months has gone by and by what my ex was saying you would think as soon as i am out the picture my ex thinks child is going to be fine and happy and that now im out picture theres going to be nothink that could emotionally effect child.but as of last month i have be contact in regards to childs behaviour and that child is having emotional problems .i cant go into details but they are saying that childs is having problems in the way they are dealing with there emotions and this is to do with feelings of anger and feeling of not having any power to talk openly about feelings...this leads me to believe that child deep down needs me is missing me and is scared of showing real feelings which would result in feeling emotionally sad and feeling like they have no power because child want to please mom and child is willing to put mom first .and this is now becoming more clear to me by how i am told child is acting in her behaviour.i have sent ex email through my solicator to say we need to be getting along for childs emotional well being and stop all this before child suffers even more .i have bern trying to get through to ex and ive done everything on myside .im really trying to get along with ex .and hope the court start to listen to me and what cafcasd say about emotional harm but time will tell any thoughts or advice guys
Hi There having experienced similar, I would say that, you are right and that it is the mother that is causing the issues and not your child, not wanting to see you,
The trouble is that changing your ex's attitude is almost impossible to do, and it will be left with you to decide how to move forward with this, it isn't easy I know I've been there.
I am now hopefully coming out the other side and although I have missed a large part of my sons life I am about to meet him again after 5 years of no contact.
GTTS
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