[Solved] Dramatic turn of events

I'm afraid it's the norm for a mental mother!

My Ex had me me arrested for me asking what she had named our daughter

One day hopefully the secret family courts will be answerable & accountable but I won't hold my breath.......

Simon,

Email me a copy. Mum and I will gladly read over it like you helped us. if it helps

Broken dad - I hear you buddy, I hear you.

It's just par for the course for us unlucky guys who got with these types of women who take pleasure out of doing such things.

Simon.

Life,

I will do , thanks for that.

Going to get started now while all is fresh in my mind!

Excellent Simon it sounds like you have this one nailed 🙂

Life,

I will do , thanks for that.

Going to get started now while all is fresh in my mind!

After last week, ANYTIME buddy ANY time! You are most welcome

I have called 101 to speak to the police and got hold of the officers collar number and the incident number, so at least I have some info.

Also I have been over the entire thread of texts my ex exchanged with me since the end of june, and I think I have discovered the flashpoint that has made her report me to the police - and it would look like a definite case of retaliation and spitefulness.

Turns out the complaint to the police was made on 22/08/14, which was 2 days before I had contact with my son.

Now on 16/08/14 she asked me to rearrange my travel to go to stockton rather than harrogate for our next contact centre session. On 17/08/14 she phoned me and I told her that I would not be able to make arrangements to go to stockton rather than harrogate because it was too expensive for me to do so.

On 20/08/14 I text her and asked her if she was free saturday afternoon, as I would be arriving in stockton at 4pm and could I pop over to hers and see our son for a bit. I mentioned I would buy her a takeaway meal as a thank you for being flexible and letting me have time with my son.

22/08/14, the same day she complained to the police, we spoke on the phone about the final arrangements for the contact on the sunday.

So where's the harassment there? If she thinks me asking if I could pop over to her's is harassment, she needs to grow up and grow some [censored]. I only wanted to see my son for an hour or so.....

I think though it was most definitely retaliation for me not changing my tickets and dancing to her tune.

Now I know why she wouldn't look me in the eye on Sunday when we met up, because she probably thought I knew she reported me to the police. That kinda makes me wonder why she still turned up to contact if 2 days earlier she had called the police on me...perhaps she knew they wouldn't contact me until after bank holiday.

Either way, my letter to the court is ready to go and exposes her for what she is.....I wonder what the court will say.

I'm going to speak to my cafcass officer tomorrow as well and inform her of my ex's behaviour.

How petty though, to report me to the police for harassment, just because I wouldn't spend nearly £200 on new train tickets for me and my mum because the ex couldnt be bothered to make her own way to harrogate.

You know what her excuse was for reporting me?? Apparently I have been trying to rekindle our relationship!! That girl is seriously deluded.....not only have I read over the text messages, and there is not one message that even hints at getting back with her....but....she is absolutely mental and I want as little to do with her as possible.

Ah....time for bed now!

Simon.

Simon, I'm so sorry to hear this, I hope things improve. From what you've said, it all sounds very petty. Thinking about Slim's post earlier where his ex is being coached by the HV, I wonder who is advising your ex and if she asked for the police not to talk to you until the contact had taken place.

Good luck hun :unsure:

1626, yes I wonder myself what truly sparked this off, or why she chose this course of action. It does make me wonder who has advised her to do what she did. It could very well be her dad and stepmum, who now detest me after the lies the ex has told them. It could be her friends. It could be in collusion with her solicitor as a wider plan to smear my name. It could also be that it is the people she knows from the womens aid agency she is conencted with, that she went to last march to enable her to claim legal aid.

It dawned on me just now that this whole thing could be another strategic move on her/and solicitors part to obtain more legal aid for future hearings. I mean, at the last hearing, the judge was not interested in her allegations and effectively dismissed them. She then agreed by consent to unsupervised contact and chose not to push for fact find hearing or seek to prover her allegations.

So if for example her legal aid is now under threat, because she has no proof to meet the legal aid agancy criteria anymore, she has to create some new evidence of "abuse". Hence my visit from the police saying I have been warned over harassment. The fact I now have a police record means she can use this to obtain legal aid.

It beggars belief that this woman, my ex, would do this to me and put a permanent black mark against my name, just to obtain legal aid to use to fight me in order to restirct the relationship I have with my son.

Words can't express how I disappointed I am at how low a human being can sink to hurt another for their own personal gain and comfort.

But like I say, I'm ready to fight this, and have all the evidence I need from my phone records to prove what she has done is purely malicious and has no basis in fact.

I think she is going to look very silly in court when the judge learns that she has broken the court order at least twice, is very much against letting contact progress as the court wishes it to, and is now using the police as a vehicle to intimidate me as a byproduct of securing legal aid.

In the last hearing, I kept my barrister on the leash a little....however, this time, she will be off the leash to rip my ex to shreds. No holds barred now.

Simon.

Good for you Simon !
I for one feel that your ex is doing everything to stop contact from progressing.

You have shown that you are a dedicated and committed dad and the court will see this.
What goes on in a head like that of your ex....I have no idea but to me, those people, mainly woman
have seemingly got egotistical and narcissistic tendencies.
It never ceases to amaze me what excuses they have for their action....and yet, they are completely
unable to contemplate the bigger picture....let alone the fact that it isn't about them.
To be honest ....I find it equally incredible that the police acted they way they did....without obviously
checking the evidence....and literally just acting on her word.

Take care
Kirsten

Yeah it was kind of disappointing that the police hand out verbal warnings on just the word of a deranged individual - and made no effort to investigate the truth before making out to be the one committing a criminal offence.

The officer had no intention seeingly to look at the text communication on my phone - although he did look a bit embarassed when he told me why he was issuing the warning, which perhaps suggests he didn't put much stock in what the ex had said, and was just passing on the message from the stockton police officers.

I'm hoping to hear back from my barrister later today, and will have a firmer idea of how we will tackle this latest problem. But all the evidence points to the ex not promoting progression of contact, and making false reports to the police, which like I say is either malicious in intent, or purely to secure legal aid for future hearings.

Hey Simon,

Did you hear back today from the Barrister? Whats the news?

It certainly seems your and my situations are not dissimilar in some ways thats for sure. Ex's seem to like playing games and our childrens expense. Out of order 🙁