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If court order says
"Respondent mother shall make the children available for indirect contact only with the applicant father, limited to letters, cards and gifts" (and then goes on to list how frequently they can be sent and when)
does that mean that direct contact is not allowed?
Unfortunately, yes it does. Is this after a recent hearing? I assume you will be going back to court to discuss contact? I dont know how old you kids are, but if they are able to read, just keep the letters nice and simple, dont say anything negative.
Sadly I was afraid of that.
No its not a recent hearing. It is years old. My grandson is now 14. My son wanted to go and visit him with some gifts and see if he would meet with him. Unfortunately his mother is saying that he is not allowed to do this due to the court order.
Seems very unfair. He is unlikely to take it back to court ever now so if he did just go anyway what sort of trouble could he get into?
With out knowing the back story, it is hard to say. I would suggest he does not go round in person, this could get him in trouble. If the court order says he cannot see them, then he must stick by this. He has every right to take it back to court to establish physical contact, albeit at a contact centre then progressing to unsupervised contact.
I believe as a grandparent, you can approach the mother yourself through mediation and discuss if you can see them yourself. Have you considered this approach? My ex has refused calls and contact with my family, I don't understand why. My eldes wants to speak to her cousin so badly, but my ex wont allow it, it is very petty as I do not see how speaking to a 12 year old is going to do anyone any harm at all.
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