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Hi,
Things have really broken down with my ex again. I hadn't seen my daughter for two months over the summer and she is, again, filling her head full of nonsense so that she doesn't want to come with me. So, I didn't really get to see her this month. I have to travel 3 and 1/2 hours and I am ill with MS. I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. This has been going on for 9 and half years and I am physically and emotionally exhausted. I do not have a PR as I wasn't put on the birth certificate, even though we were together at the time. She promised me a PR seven and a half years ago, in return for £2000 and a certain level of maintenance. Of course, she reneged on this and didn't give me one, even though the contract was drawn up by my solicitor and signed by her.
The question I have is, do I have to go to mediation? I know that she won't be interested. Al she is interested in is maintaining control and getting as much money out of me as possible for as little contact as possible. She is also abusing my daughter by filling her with anxiety and dread. I am at a point where I am going to give up. I feel that my visits, because of her, cause more damage than good. I want my daughter to grow up to be a strong and independent woman, not a nervous wreck which she is becoming.
I do want a PR because I don't want my daughter disappearing out of the country. Any advice would be really appreciated.
Thanks.
You don't have to go to mediation but you do have to attend an MIAM. If you attend and make it very clear that your ex will not attend, I had a screenshot of a text where she point blank refused to attend, then they will just sign the certificate that enables you to apply to court.
If you don't attend an MIAM you can't fill out the C100 fully and it will be rejected.
Good luck.
Hi Hackett,
Thanks for your quick reply. That's all I needed to know.
Good luck to you also.
Hi
What Hackett has told you is correct. You would need a C100 for a Child Arrangement Order and a C1 for PR. If you are having financial difficulties also look at the EX160a to see if you qualify for a reduction or exemption in court fees. Legal Aid is still available for mediation if you qualify. If your ex qualifies for Legal Aid for mediation both of your MIAMs are free.
I have deleted your duplicate post in the Welcome section.
Good luck and feel free to ask us for further help if you need it.
Hi Yoda,
Thanks for your reply, I appreciate it. So, I arrange mediation before I put in a court order? Why do I need a Child arrangement order? I won't be able to get legal aid, i've tried before.
Thanks.
Thanks.
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