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Hello all,
Has anyone on here contested a divorce? If so, what am I likely to expect. My ex is putting all sorts of lies which I have never been arrested or questioned on. Will i get the chance to show this evidence to the judge, or are they just going to grant the divorce on her terms with no evidence provided? I am going unrepresented as I know I can prove everything is lies, just want to know if I get the chance to discuss this?
Hi
What is being contested ?
If it’s the reason for the divorce it’s all B. S it doesn’t matter unless she’s accusing you of real bad stuff , the reason for the divorce doesn’t have any bearing ,it’s just a tick box exercise . So if they say unreasonable behaviour they have the give some examples .theres a set list of reasons . If you accept the marriage is over than just say in your form you don’t accept what ex is saying is true but you won’t contest the marriage is over .. that’s what my solicitor advised .
If your contesting finances that’s different ...
Thanks, yes I am contesting the reasons. I am more than happy for the divorce to go through, just not on her terms. She is basically just copied and pasted her non mol statement in her divorce papers. None of it is true and I can prove it is.
Hi
To be honest there’s nothing you can really contest that’s worthwhile of the effort . You don’t even go to court for a hearing .As above the reasons they give are just tick boxes so the magistrate can say yeah they meet the criteria , decree nisi etc issued .
It doesn’t make any difference going forward as to what reasons she gave . My advice . Save yourself the ball ache . Respond with you don’t accept the reasons given but accept the marriage is over etc . There’s no different type of divorce issued because you split on good or bad terms etc .
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