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Hello listener,
I am father-to-be to a little man called Marcus, unfortunately his mother is longer interested in being a mother and has been told she may have a care order against her because of a string of criminal offenses. Having a clean record and background I have suggested that I take full custody of the child so that he won't end up in Holloway with his mother, or lost to the care system. I have read that there can be a form (C1, i think) that can be signed and statements given by parents in order to make it official and legal. There is no contest from the mother, she feels it would be in his best interests to be with me.
So if there is an agreement and we dont require mediation, can we just decide that I am the official guardian and have full custody. As ive heard that some fathers experience problems when seeking medical attention for their child. Marcus will be with us in mid-november. Due to his mother's 'situation' we have social services, child protection, family mid-wife, substance misuse and an appointed medical professional interested in her case.
They are reluctant to speak directly to me due to confidentiality, but I need to know what I must do to make it legal and watertight.
Thank you!
Luke
Hi
I would suggest that you first read yoji's guides to representing yourself and the C100 application at the top of the legal section, and then post back any further questions you have.
I would also add that, as you don't appear to have legal representation, you can contact the Coram Children's Legal Service for free, confidential legal advice. There's a link to their website at the foot of this page!
FM '70
Thanks for the recommended reading, very helpful! I have spoken social services who have had a meeting about our case. As I will be on the birth certificate I will have parental rights and therefore shouldn't have to go through the process of C100-ing, instead we have to write a statement of intent to be considered and approved by the various services involved. Following this an assessment by CPS, midwives and social services.
I hope this is of some use to anyone in my position. I shall update as I go! Good luck to all the good guys out there!
Please keep in touch. I think other parents in a similar position would benefit from your experiences.
Good luck,
FM'70
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