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Hi,
I am trying to see if there is a simple answer to the following, I think you may find it interesting.
I am taking my ex to court and thought that for the sake of our daughters I would try to come to an agreement out of court te following has been agreed after a week of negotiation
School holidays
Pick up and drop off
Contact for every friday
Contact alternate weekends
Now the issue is this (I cant believe it) A while ago I had mid week contact with my daughters and her solicitor changed, at her request and my agreement . That being I swap Wednesday night for Sunday night. I now live 35 minute drive from the matrimonial home and the child in question is almost 10.
I have agreed to give up the sunday night on the proviso that my ex picks up, she agreed but wants to pick up at 18.00, moved to 19.00 although in a recent note from her solicitor stating they wanted to pick up at 20.00, I will agree 19.30 as we have our main family meal on a Sunday evening. My ex has said no and we are going to court, even said why cant we have our main meal at lunch.
My question is, can I say to the judge at the beginning of the hearing that we are practically at an agreement bar the above, as soon as that is agreed I would like a Court Order granted. WOuld they say yes or do I need to do something else?
Many thanks!
Generally at the Directions hearing, before going into court, you and the ex should get the opportunity to try and reach an agreement with the assistance of the court adviser. Hopefully you may be able to resolve this one issue and this will make the proceedings straightforward and hopefully an order will be drawn up by consent.
Hello,
With the greatest respect I cannot see that "Their Worships" would want to get involved with pick up times that only vary be a couple of hours or so. As the previous contributer has said it would be best if this was resolved before you go into court as when the order is finally made it may be something that all parties are not happy with.
What about your daughter staying for the family meal and you hand over after that or have her stay over and you take her to school Monday.
Regards,
Brian
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