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Hi all.
I recently submitted my C2 form and have received my order back following the false allegations (again) of me hitting mother and her breaking the court order.
The order says we have a directions hearing at the end of next week which I’m delighted about as it will have only been 3/4 weeks since contact was stopped. Why is this a directions hearing and not a dispute resolution ? Is this a hearing where the court can enforce the order ??
Furthermore I again stress I have never touched the mother however she does have one video (video is all black) where I say “yeah I’ll smack you in a minute” obviously this is something I do regret saying but I had just been assaulted by her myself. Is this something to be worrried about should I just admit it if it comes up or should I deny it as I can’t be seen in the video ??
Thanks again everyone
With regards to the directions hearing, i guess the courts will be looking to assess what you and your ex's version of events are and then the judge will decide what needs to be done, i.e. if judge needs more information such as CAFCASS reports / police disclosure etc...
if you were assaulted by her did you report it? if no then it's your word against hers, the video having no visual would likely be again your word against hers, yes you said it but as you didn't do it then unless she has proof you did i.e. medical report / incident report then again it's her word against yours.
unfortunately that will be down to how good an actress she can be!
whatever you do be truthful, don't try to deceive the judge and take the moral high gound...do not react to her...if she ever assaults you report it....DV happens to men too!
Thanks for your reply!! That’s great hopefully they will be able to see past all of her lies and enforce the order on her without cafcass getting involved again.
Regards the video, I did report it to the police and when they asked if I wanted to press charges I said no as I didn’t really want the mother getting in trouble. At the same time she called the police and I was arrested. Later released without further action as it was clear to the police that she was trying to score points for court.
I have nothing to worry about really I’m just terrified that I’m not going to see my daughter for 3 months again like in the initial hearing.
Thanks again
Do you think she would have not pressed charges?
In hindsight yes I should have pressed the charges. I do have more than enough proof of her hitting me but I’ve gone through [censored] already regarding my contact being stopped from allegations.
I’m scared that if allaegations are thrown about again whether that be from me or mother that I won’t see the little one for 3 months again. So I have thought that it’s just best to put up and shut up for the sake of seeing my daughter.
Mother has severe anger problems and doesn’t take her medication for her mental health. She has hit me in the past and I have proof. I will be raising all this next week and hope that the court don’t suspend contact for any reason
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