[Solved] Dilemma

hi and welcome to the forum.

Since last April, it is now mandatory to try mediation before going to court, so you're going to need to try this first anyway, though it's a good thing anyway to try to resolve the situation without going to court.

Try www.nfm.org.uk

I went for the mediation assessment but find it hard to discuss things with her especially the way she uses my children has toys

If mediation isn't working, then the mediator will need to sign form FM1 to state as such, and you can then proceed to court - I'd read the stick topics on representing yourself in court at the top of the legal eagle section, even if you are going to use a solicitor.

The mediator will sign the form for court but trying to find out what the best route is mediation or court

If I get to court I have already got a mackenzie friend I'm going to use thanks

Well, as above, mediation is always the best option if it works, but if your mediator is happy to sign the form on the basis that it's not working, then that only leaves court as an option.

Is it possible for the court to send you back to mediation as it was me that would be deciding that I don't want mediation after the assessment meeting

mediation isn't all it's cracked up to be for sure, by what you've said your ex is like it will be a waste of time and money and it doesn't come cheap, I went through 3 mediators and they were all the same yet more biased, sexist ignorant arrogant numpties all aboard the gravy train all three of them sided with the ex because she said there was DV, my ex refused to even come on all three occasions and i was over the moon I got one of them to sign my FM1 form so I could go straight to court.

The courts will more than likely try and send you both back once the case starts I was thankful the ex point blank refused to their faces and we were able to crack on with the case.

They should sack off mediation all together and send you BOTH on the spips course ran by relate, Relate are non biased and very helpful. Seeing as you HAVE to attend mediation I'd give it a go see what your ex is like then try and push for the FM1 asap, Women use mediation to hit you in the pocket and try and drag it out for as long as possible so be careful I swear I could see £ sights in the mediators eyes!

Thanks

I think I'm going to go straight to court and see from there

As there is also financial bits involved where everything is in my name but she has it all so think she may try to blackmail me in mediation