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So fed up wish i wasnt here its all so stressful i dont know weather to go along with family assistance order do i really want social services or is a family assistance order a good thing i dont know so many questions all this court stuff is killing me i so bad want to see my child .nighmares the last few nights i just wish i could have a moment to hug my child and say i love you .cried this after noon feel like the court cafcass have just made a mountain out of a mole hill using my mental health against me even tho my childs saud i would see my dad if my gran or mom where there but all the court seem to be bothered by is pleasing mom even tho all mum says is lies but they dont wanna know i just dont wanna go on another year if nothing is gone change if the family assistance order is gonna help me get to see my daughter then great but if its jump through xyz again parent course more therapy for the end result to be mom still feels like she cant let child go to contact cause she feel dads mental health us an issue then i just feel total fuc*ed over by ex court n cafcass because nobody has listen to the proof all experts say theres my mental health doesnt mean i cant have unsupervised contact as its not got in the way of contact before but ex is just calling shots at court instead of listening just feel like i wish all this was over its ruining me its ruining everything i know deep down ill never give up but i feel like its killing me inside trying to stay strong is so [censored] hard
Hi there
I'm really sorry to hear how hard you're finding your situation at the moment, the strain of all this is considerable and it's important that you take some time out and give yourself a break from time to time.
Without knowing the details surrounding the FAO it's really difficult to advise you, but try not to worry so much about it, it might just be helpful as you will have your own caseworker and hopefully they will try and get things moving forward.
Here's a link to some info about FAOs
http://www.thecustodyminefield.com/flapp/familyassistanceorders.html
If you have concerns it's best to speak to the caseworker and try and get some idea of what they are hoping to achieve and what directions the judge has given them in respect of the FAO.
Please try and be kind to yourself,it's very hard to stay focussed, but if you are finding it too hard I would advise that you go and talk to your GP about getting some help, maybe a short course of anti depressants or some counselling might help.
You've tried so hard for your child and I know you will find the strength to carry on. We are here for you, talking helps too.
Take care of yourself.
Hi there
I'm really sorry to hear how hard you're finding your situation at the moment, the strain of all this is considerable and it's important that you take some time out and give yourself a break from time to time.
Without knowing the details surrounding the FAO it's really difficult to advise you, but try not to worry so much about it, it might just be helpful as you will have your own caseworker and hopefully they will try and get things moving forward.
Here's a link to some info about FAOs
http://www.thecustodyminefield.com/flapp/familyassistanceorders.html
If you have concerns it's best to speak to the caseworker and try and get some idea of what they are hoping to achieve and what directions the judge has given them in respect of the FAO.
Please try and be kind to yourself,it's very hard to stay focussed, but if you are finding it too hard I would advise that you go and talk to your GP about getting some help, maybe a short course of anti depressants or some counselling might help.
You've tried so hard for your child and I know you will find the strength to carry on. We are here for you, talking helps too.
Take care of yourself.
thank you for your advice the court have set up a meeting for next week with case worker to tell me more about fao before they have my consent to go ahead so im just gonna try have a break some chill out time with my beautiful wife maybe a couple nights away outs side of manchester for a change of scenery thanks again for your kind words it means alot to me it really does
It might help to make a short list of the questions/concerns that you have, ready for your meeting, they have to have your consent before an FAO is ordered, so hopefully it's an opportunity for you to get a plan in place to get things moving.
I think it's a really good idea to take some time out from the situation, to give you both a chance to recharge your batteries ... have a great time!
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