[Solved] DEALING WITH CAFCASS, DO'S & DON'TS

You need to fill out your c100 first BM have you done it yet?

Just to add, BM, the first contact cafcass have with you, if and when you submit your c100, would be as part of an s2 safeguarding report. This is a telephone interview only.

I believe they would only carry out a home visit as part of an s7 report, which may or may not be ordered by the judge at the directions hearing.

Simon.

I nipped to the garage to fill up today which is opposite the Family court, I went in to pay for my fuel and noticed a woman hurrying to the door so as I entered the shop I caught the door with my foot to keep it open for her and I let the door go thinking she had hold of it which she didn't.

The door swung back a smacked her full force in the forehead........imagine my delight when I realised it was the witch from [censored] CAFCASS officer from the family court who dealt with my case 🙂

Needless to say I refrained from apologising and went about my day 🙂

Well, I probably say that that should come under the "don'ts" - but maybe it's just karma.

Can't say too much but I've spent the afternoon in a CAFCASS office so bear with me as I've got a blinding update for this thread especially for S2 interviews 🙂

...I'm Intrigued Mr Slim....don't keep us in suspense for too long!

Thanks for your helpful advice. I have a child welfare hearing soon in Scotland and will use some of your advice during this hearing. Laughed my [censored] off at the Ibiza comment ! Thanks again.

any update on this?

I won't tell you how why or when but I found myself spending the afternoon in a CAFCASS call centre I was there for 5 hours in total and I over heard around 20 over the phone S2 interviews conducted by the so called "Officers".

I overheard each call to the mother and father and you could tell the Father made a pigs ear of each conversation about 90% of the time!

Call after call the "officer" kept saying "calm down" calm down" Mr XXXX speak more slowly, I could here there tone change once the father kept slagging the mum off it doesn't go down well at all.

You could tell the fathers had not mentioned any previous police involvement of charges of misconduct from the past thinking they wont find out and about, 3/4 of the way through the call the "officer" would suddenly drop them saying is there any reason why you never informed us about your previous convictions ect it was always a downward slope from then on. You could tell they don't like being taken for a ride.

Nearly all the dads went overboard saying their life was [censored] and they couldn't cope with the courts ect and Cafcass aren't interested in the slightest that too got their backs up.

To be fair each officer started the conversation off the same if it was either parent and nearly all went pear shaped when the Father started ranting, raving or lying.

As for the Women you could tell they all laid it all on thick suggesting the father was a mad man ect then when they phoned the dad that's how they sounded for sure.

The "officers" had a mothers meeting after every father call basically taking the p*** out of them not one word was said about the Mother they are slightly biased IMO but the dads don't do them selves any favours at all.

So all in all be very careful when you have to deal with CAFCASS especially in the initial S2 phone call as it sort of sets the tone for the rest of your case and you need these jokers on your side so if you do have the misfortune to have then involved in your case do the following -

DON'T SLAG THE MUM OFF AT ALL.

KEEP COOL CALM AND IN CONTROL AT ALL TIMES.

BE HONEST ABOUT PAST CONVICTIONS.

BE 100% CHILD FOCUSED.

DON'T COME ACROSS AS DEFEATIST.

DON'T SLAG THE COURTS, SOCIAL SERVICES OR CAFCASS OFF.

STICK TO THE POINT DON'T BLABBER.

SPEAK SLOWLY.

SLIM 🙂

That's excellent slim - I think we've all said pretty much all of your points on here all along, but it's interesting to hear that the cafcass officers are starting off generally on the same level for both parents, and it's the dad's that dig themselves a hole a lot of the time. It would have been interesting to know what would have been their reaction to a dad who did it all right.

Thanks again for that post - it's good advice in one place 🙂

Hi Gents.

During my telephone interview with the officer it was very clear my ex wife had made unjust allegations against me and I felt the officer was telling me things that had been said in an effort to provoke a reaction. I didn't rise to this at all. Don't fall in to that trap. The interview is as much a pressure test as it is to find the facts. Once the officer realised she wasn't able to wind me up we had a very reasonable conversation. She asked relevant questions, and listened to what I had to say. This was evident in the report she sent to court. No mention of any allegations of violence or alcohol abuse on my part and a line saying cafcass will not need to be evolved further. In all honesty the report was very much dismissed in court.

I now have very good content with my children and my ex has settled and stopped the vendetta.

Carcass and the court have one agenda. The welfare of the children of a broken marriage or relationship.

They don't care about the parents at all.

Keep it together Dads and keep focused on what's best for the children and it will work out fine.

Absolutely spot on advice there from DAD4EVER, Yeah ACTD it's a shame I didn't hear a good one but undercover activities will be commencing again soon enough it took me by surprise last time so I'll be mega on it next time 🙂