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Hey Guy's,
Here's my guide on dealing with Cafcass.
Now thankfully Cafcass are no longer involved in my case! Woo! Hoo! 🙂 🙂 🙂
Some people have had a good experience with them but if I'm honest they are all the most vile, sexist, arrogant, ignorant people I have ever had the misfortune to meet from the very outset they treated my like a criminal they based all there lies on complete hear say from my ex and never produced one bit of hard evidence throughout my whole case so I would like to inform you of a few do's and don'ts when dealing with them as I'd hate for anyone to go through what I did they made my life 100x harder than it needed to be.
Now Cafcass may become involve in your case if they has been allegations of child abuse which will more than likely come from your EX they came involved in my case as I brought up the fact that my EX is an Alcoholic and she had been beating one Daughter and neglecting the other so after I filled out the C100 form they phoned me up and spent an hour on the phone questioning me about everything which they also done with my EX.
This was to compile an S2 report for the Court at the first Directions hearing which absolutely slated me. They then were asked to do a more in depth S7 report where they conducted an hour long face to face interview before the second hearing which again absolutely slated me.
I have no history of Domestic violence, child abuse, no criminal record and my ex never reported me to anyone and they still painted a picture of an abusive, controlling violent malicious jilted EX of a nutter out of me it was almost comical.
The only few words which I did fully agree with was CAFCASS WITH NO LONGER BE INVOLVED at the end of their shambles of an S7 report.
Use these pointers if you are dealing with them over the phone, in court, if they do a home visit or they conduct a face to face interview.
So we will start off with the Don'ts
DO NOT!!!!!
- Challenge the reporter they hold all the power not you they are the ones in charge here and you have to be helpful and co-operative throughout the interview you need these muppets on your side i'm afraid.
- Harp on about the relationship or marriage this is not about addressing your feelings you've got to remember it's all about the Child/Children.
- Sling mud, this will not help leave all the mud slinging to your EX as they will not believe you anyway and you will be made out to be malicious for sure.
- Be petty don't argue over small things be the responsible one and try and be pro active don't get bogged down about who will do the drop offs ect look at the bigger picture.
- misread the officers friendliness or hostility you really will have no idea what they will put in their report so be careful.
- Raise your voice this will make you look aggressive.
- Don't issue ultimatums this will get you know where trust me saying she can had your child I'm going to do this that and the other will not wash at all.
Right and for the Do's
DO!!!!
- Co-operate fully with the inquiry be the open honest one who will do anything to see their flesh and blood you really need these numb nuts on your side for a good report it's a must.
- Come clean about any skeletons in the closet any drink or drug issues give them up your child is worth more than any of that [censored] so come clean as you can be sure as [censored] your EX will bring it up don't give her the satisfaction the courts will be pleased that you address what ever problem you have.
- Be 100% child focused and speak of any proof that you have that you are a good parent remember this is all about the child no one else your EX hardly comes into it.
- Show that you are trying to work with the other parent show you are the chilled out one not wanting any fuss and point out it is in the best interests of the child to have 2 parents who can get on (hard I know)
- STAY COOL CALM AND COLLECTED through out watch your body language and voice tone you do not want to come across as aggressive at all.
- Mention the wider family
- Have a child friendly home, stair gates, plug covers, keep chemicals out the reach of kids make a child centred room up for when they stay if you live in a one bed place like me get a sofa bed and sling a cot or small bed in your room. Stash the porno's ect all this is for a home visit obviously. This one might be difficult but put up a pic of your ex so it shows you respect her as the mother of your child then throw darts at it when they have gone 🙂
I hope this can be of some help I may of come across a little judgmental but I really did have a rough trot with this shower of **** you man not have half the bother as I did but good luck keep on fighting and never give up 🙂
Mr Slim 😉
I look forward to reading this, as of yet I haven't had the pleasure of meeting them, but i'm sure as all the other organisations are so fantastic, they will be an absolute joy.
Any time frame for this would be amazing, I have my first hearing next month and want to do a little more swotting up with someone that has had dealings with them.
Thanks
IAP
Yeah I will have it done end of today or tomorrow I've just updated my other Guide and you have to bear in mind I've just got back from the most hardcore week djing in Ibiza so I've just managed to start walking talking reading and writing again! hahahaha! 🙂
Revised guide now up 🙂
[censored], This is god sent, Ive been told by judge a s7 needs to be done because she is unhappy with cafcass original report. I;m a residential parent and have full backing from social worker and report is on my side too, but cafcass report was 50/50. fingers crossed.
Does anyone know if cafcass read social workers report? If so I'm sorted
I'm sure it will go in your favour being the resident parent and all just make sure you take a copy of all the evidence you have with you when they interview you so you can refer to it there and then and yes I think they will almost certainly read the SS report if you've got a copy take that with you or have it to hand.
The S7 is a bit more in depth they will look at police reports SS reports the lot but don't go in here thinking it's game set and match as you never know with these people.
Slim 🙂
Thanks slim,
My partner is not educated in this country so im sure its the solicitor who has asked court for s7 report. the judge agreed and gave them till 25 nov.
Another thing i wanted to ask, my partner currently comes to visit kids twice a month with her brother/sister-inlaw who both drive. but on my last court day on pre-court hearing I was told that I will have to come up with arrangements to take my kids 60 miles to visit my partner by the 21 oct or ill have to come into court and let judge decide.
Is that possible? me taking 2 kids 60 miles away to visit their mother, while im the residental parent and live in the same place since kids are born.
Please have a look at my original post so you'll get some sort of idea of my story. many thanks
[censored], Breaking news I just got text message from partner begging to come back home!
She has domestic abuse case on my [censored] and now she sends me this message.
Must be the social workers report suggesting I get residence of kids and her doctors letter stating she suffers from depression and has ben on anti-depressents. which may I add she denied to judge on first visit.
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