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Hi. I have been broke up with my ex for 5 years now.
She has always been awkward about me seeing my daughter. But now she saying my daughter doesnt like coming and doesnt want to come see me.
She always is happy and has fun when she is with me so i dont see where it has come from. Is my ex just making it up? Am i such a bad person my daughter hates me 🙁
I need help as my daughter always says she is okay when she is here with me 🙁
What can i do so i still get to see my daughter??
Hello Chris Piercy,
I think some mothers tell the fathers that the child doesn't want to see them as it is wishful thinking on their part when in effect the child does want to see the father. It is a type of control which they invariably want to hold on to. It causes difficulty for the father and affects the child. The fact your daughter is happy when with you and has fun gives the impression it is the mother's opinion and not your daughter's.
When a mother says this sort of thing it can be borne out of wanting to control, jealousy, fear of rejection by the child any number of things but at the end of the day it is an attempt at parental alienation which is totally unacceptable.
Is the mother stopping your daughter visiting you? If not, I would carry on as usual and ignore what the mother is saying but make a note along with the date each time she confronts you about this issue.
If the mother is stopping contact you could take the matter to court to gain access via a Court Order but it is mandatory to attempt mediation first.
Your daughter doesn't hate you. She needs you and you need her in your life.
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