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So after all the previous cases it would now seem my daughter is refusing to see me.
My daughter is currently going through counselling and has apparently stated she doesn’t want to see me and is currently feeling very low.
The ex sent me a message saying my daughter wasn’t coming to see me at her own request and then a text a week later saying my daughter doesn’t want to see me anymore and I should respect her wishes and feelings and I should take it up with her councillor if I have any problems. Surprisingly though no talk of how we should be working together to ensure our daughter is happy.
I haven’t responded as yet as I’m currently just going through a family bereavement. I do have a contact order and mum has worded it so she hasn’t actually denied contact, am I right in thinking I should tell her it contact doesn’t take place I will consider it as a breach of the order?
My daughter is happy when she’s here and I know deep down this is a case of parental alienation and her being coerced to say she doesn’t want to see me! I’m deeply concerned that I wasn’t also informed that she was going to counselling despite me having parental responsibility.
Any help or advice how to deal with this and how to proceed?
Much appreciated.
how old is your daughter? only way you will really know if alienation has taken place is if you meet your daughter, or phone contact?
Do you have any contact with the counciller - could they provide an independent view and facilitate a true picture.
It has a very familiar ring to it for the controlling parent to say the child doesn't want to when it is actually the adult with the issue.
Oh my god! This is the exact same situation with my daughter. The ex has turned her against me and said horrible things about me to her. It is clear there parent alienation taking place but what can I do about it?
...you’ve got mediation soon Dave, see how that pans out. You could let her know that if mediation fails and she won’t agree to the midweek stay over, you will be applying for a shared care arrangement, which means that the children will have two homes and live with both of you, thus equalising your parenting position...it may make her think that accepting an extra night is the lesser of two evils!
Best of luck
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