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Hello Everyone,
I need your opinion based on your experiences.
(I'm living in Italy and my ex is living in Uk).
My ex and me are going on March to the 2nd hearing and things are getting difficult now as she is focused in blocking and exclude me as much as possible from my son life.
The last menace I received by message is that she is not willing to tell me about my son holidays (dates and destination) abroad (as she is doing it now just as good will but she will ask the court to remove it from the previous act). She says that I'm not allowed to know anything about my son holidays for max 28 days.
Can she ask for that? any experience? What can I "say" for responding to this menace?
Another menace I received is that she won't put me as the Emergency contact.
Is she allowed? What can I do/ask to court for avoiding it?
Thank you for your help, she is at the moment out of control 🙁
Thank you all for your help! I wish you all a very nice day!
Simply ask the court to order that you are given details of flights etc accommodation and dates they are away . The court had no issues ordering that for me and I think it’s pretty standard .
My ex too didn’t have me as an emergency contact on the list for sitters etc so I court I said it was in the best interests of the kids that o could be reached in an emergency especially if the ex was out of contact . They also agreed and ordered that my details were to be given to anyone looking after the kids
Ask for it. Say it is in the best interest of your child. As if something was to happen to his mother while abroad they would not know who to contact.
Details of flights etc might be pushing it a bit but dates and destination wouldn't.
I asked for all the above and it was ordered in my favour . Might not be the case for everyone but no harm asking for things in court ,if you can justify it . Worse case they won’t grant it .. but if you don’t ask you don’t get also
hi,
UK law states: You can take a child abroad for 28 days without getting permission if a child arrangement order says the child must live with you, unless a court order says you can’t.
she is being foolish and hostile by not even wanting to tell you where the child will be going. in my order, both parents have to give eachother 8 weeks notice (order says kids live with mother) about 1 week holidays abroad or in UK, and we have to let each other know where/hotel address etc.
you can request something like this at your hearing.
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