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my partner left me with the 2 children 15 months ago we agreed that they would stay at my place 4 nights a week she stopped that after 4 months they now stay 3 nights also used to come over to my place on a Sunday afternoon she now has stopped that saying that they need a routine they have been at my place on a Sunday ever since she left if that is not a routine I don't know what is is there any way of getting these contact days back without going to court ?
many thanks
Hi there
To answer your question, you could try mediation to try and get things back to the way they were. Here's a link to the mediation service
www.nfm.org.uk
That said, you have your children nearly 50% of the time, which compared to some is a really good amount. Are there any recent changes that might effect her decision to stop The Sunday visit? Have they started school, or is there a problem with getting them bathed and ready for school on Monday morning because they get back late? is there an issue with homework? These are the things that you could look at and perhaps come up with compromise. Getting them ready and in PJs when you drop them off, or doing their homework with them before they leave.
I would advise against court, it really is only a last resort and as you have organised contact between yourselves that is working, the court may refuse to make an order anyway.
Best of luck with it.
on my part there is no issues, she is saying that they need routine, they have been at my house for over 15 months on a Sunday I don't know how much more of a routine you can get I drop them off at the latest 1830hrs we had an argument a few months ago she started saying that I owed her maintenance .she came back the next day saying that it is her who owed me she started paying me half of what the government said that she needed to pay after 3 months she decided not to pay saying that I didn't deserve the money so I wrote to the government asking for help they wrote to her asking why she wasn't paying and from that letter she stopped me seeing the children how can I stop her from carrying on this to an extent that I don't see the children anymore just because something has upset her and end result is I see less and less of my children . when something goes wrong between us she is using the children as ammo and its not fair on me and not fair on the children who are now asking why can I not see them on a Sunday
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