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Good afternoon,
I am the applicant of our proceedings. I have filed a C100 and am awaiting the CAFCASS call.
Background history, I separated from my partner in 2020. We have an 8 year old son. We have never had a routine arrangement in place, just as and when she will agree. I would like a formal arrangement. She is very upset that I have taken our situation to court. We have known each other for ten years and abuse has never been a topic of discussion, however since receiving her paperwork from court she has made a long list of allegations against me.
One of these allegations is that I do not pay enough CSA and that she will be requesting financial inspection.
I shall admit (am not proud of it) that I stopped maintenance payments between September and April of this year, as she stopped contact. I reinstated it via CSA to ensure we had a legitimate agreement. She in turn offered to reinstate contact, but never did.
I am of the understanding that CAFCASS and the court would not be interested in my finances. I have nothing to hide, I am on very low income. I do not claim benefits and I work when I’m able. I am trying my best to support my son when I can, but the amount given is never enough to reinstate contact.
I would very much like the hearing to focus on contact and I’m worried that she will attempt to divert or drag this out over financial contributions. Is this a possibility? Can a judge request bank statements, proof of income etc? Again, happy to provide it all, I just would like some clarification. We were never married and have no shared assets.
Thank you in advance
hi,
child arrangements and finances are treated as separate issues, so your c100 is only about child welfare issues. It would not look good on her if she is withholding contact because of money. Feel free to get in touch if you need advice with process. sending you private message.
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