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Yes it was stopped because i took him to the loo.
Supervised contact your not allowed to be alone with kids at any stage, just wish they had said that so i new from the start.
You would assume they would have told you as they were there at the time. Did you argue about it? I mean did they say you can't take him and you ignored them? Or did they say nothing and just let you do it?
So, what were you supposed to do? let him pee himself and then be a called a bad father for not taking him to the loo looking after his needs?
If it’s supervised contact and the child needs the toilet I’m assuming the person supervising it should have also gone with you to the toilet or taken the child instead of you? Not being funny but you’d have all on getting an adult and a child in my toilet never mind two adults and a child….and i’d not trust a stranger in a toilet with my child that’s for certain in this day and age!
No, my sister was the supervising party so she should of taken him to the loo.
Social services never gave me any guidance at all as to what i could and couldn't do. There is also no printed set of rules for you to follow - your just suppose to know.!
Both my ex and SS keep referring back to the safety plan - i have never seen the safety plan so i asked for a copy..
The safety plan is between my Ex and SS so i cant see the safety plan with out my ex express permission - i cant contact my ex as she has a non-mol out stopping that contact !
Yet i am suppose to be following this plan...lol you could make this [censored] up really could you.
The system is full of holes and contradictions. Leaves Dads in the dark with no options or power to do anything !
I'm even more lost now - if your sister was supervising, how does anyone know about this in the first place?
Did your son tell you ex? If so she must have pretty much interrogated him which you should raise as a concern, It would hardly be natural for a four year old to go back to mum and say "Daddy took me to the toilet" - he's been prompted or pushed to say this.
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