[Solved] COURT TRIAL

Absolutely agree with justdad... no matter what happens between separated parents, the children should be kept from it. It's not fair to burden your child with this, they don't have the maturity or experience to deal with it.

If the court are made aware of it I would advise that you propose attendance on a Separated Parents Information Programme, as part of the programme they discuss the damage that can be done to children that are caught up in the conflict between parents.

Hopefully, if you nip this in the bud, any damage can be mitigated at this stage, I would suggest you try and be positive about his mother next time he talks about her.

I agree with the above that children should not be made party to the conflicts between the parents. But I do have two questions...
How do you explain to children who are in the middle of it all what is happening, especially curious and bright children who have a lot of questions and not telling them anything is potentially also causing harm.
At what level do the courts or cafcass actually step in when the ex is telling them things they're too young to hear. Is there a legal framework or guidelines that they work to that can help stop the non-resident parent becoming a victim of this when the ex is telling them lies?

As far as I know, there is no legal framework as such, there is the Section 7, Section 48 or Section 37 report!

From my searches for information over the last 9/10yrs and more so in the last 3-4yrs i cannot see anything that can prevent someone lying to the kids....how can you stop them when they are the resident parent.

it's easier to stop them if they are the non-resident parent, you simply stop them having contact, they then take you to court and then you go down the emotional abuse routes.

You can find out if someone is lying in a case by having a finding of fact hearing, lying in court is contempt of court, however, in family court that seems to get overlooked a lot so it seems, even when proven!

How can you stop them lying to the kids when the courts don't even do anything about them when they get caught out in court!

Actually stopping them from lying to the kids is pretty much impossible if they're not willing to tell the truth.

Update

Social service have manged to talk my ex into letting me see my son, so they have arranged a 1 hour contact session at their offices next week.

1 hour is not much but better than nothing which was what my ex was offering.

Also first hearing is in the first week of Sept - so just over 4 weeks to go.

Social service said they would still recommend supervised contact with my family supervising at any hearing - my ex doesnt want this although shes on friendly terms with my sister.

Questions

How much damage is done to a father / son relationships when contact is suddenly stopped and how long does it take to get back to normal after say after 3/4 months of very limited contact?

Is it possible to ask in the hearings for a mental health assessment to be carried out on my ex? or does no such thing exist?

Thanks