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Hello all.
So today having not seen my now 1 year old daughter since April last year i attending my 1st court hearing.
My ex has alleged domestic violence etc none of which was true and actually contradiced herself a few times.
The Cafcass officer came into the court and after reading statemeents etc and recomended supervised visits every 2 weeks until an april court date (whilst we await section 7 report).
Obviously i am going to get to see my daughter in the meantime however not in ideal circumstances. Would you class this as a positive case for me? Surely if i was as evil as im been made out id be allowed no where near my child??
Really hoping that in April i get some proper access
Must also say what a great site. Learned a lot from here.
Yes it's positive, If your child is only 1 year old I would recommend you take nappies and baby milk to the centre with you this will look better. Cafcass will call to your house and interview you! make sure your house is in good shape and you are really polite as this will all go on the report.. it worked for me.
Best Regards
Thank mate. Yeah i kinda know its a positive outcome however i still keep doubting/worrying what lies my ex can say next. My only focus now tho needs to be on my daughter so thats what i intend on doing. Thanks again
I agree with gorby, this is as much as you could have expected, considering that an S7 is still being prepared, your daughters age and the fact that you've had no contact for most of her life.
Unless the S7 report is damning, there's a good possibility that contact will be progressed at the next hearing. Concentrate on your visits with your little one and presenting yourself as a loving, calm and reasonable dad... don't stoop to your ex's level and don't throw mud, if she's a good mum it's ok to say so. Avoid [censored] for tat at all costs and Xpress the hope that you and your ex will at some point put past differences aside and work together to provide the very best for your little one....this is the kind of thing the authorities love to hear.
If you can get yourself on a parenting course that will also help to show how seriously you take your role as a caring parent.
Best of luck
Hi There,
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I agree although it seems like a loss, at least you are seeing your little one, as already said focus on that and wait for the report, it doesn't matter how slowly you move forward, as long as you are moving forward.
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GTTS
Thanks guys. Is there any perenting courses i could do online which would help me?
At the end of the first Section 7 Report in my case, CAFCASS suggested both parents did this online course.....
I would guess if you were to do this now and let CAFCASS know, it will show you are being pro-active.
Sorry to hijack but even if an ex makes a completely false allegation would the court take it as nearly gospel?
Coffee kev No they don't take it as gospel. Cafcass might get involved and they will check police and Doctors records to see about your past it all really depends on what allegations she's accused you of
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