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(@painkiller)
Eminent Member Registered

Try to keep it as brief as I can.

Back in 2013 I had a child with my wife, unfortunately the child was taken from me. The reason for them was risk and domestic abuse. The real reason was the professionals were the most dodgy people in the world. Railroading such as faking my signature on official documents, falsifying evidence, fabrication, drama, re-writing documents to fit the agenda / redacting to their pleasure. Started by asking my wife If I had abused her, she said no right to their face but they stated a abused women would say that and there it went and honestly these people were that dodgy. When it began knew that they would take the child no matter what despite them telling us it would be fine and wont take child, as said dodgy as F. Like complained my house was too small, I was offered a house by my housing association and the social service (SS Nazis) called them and told them to revoke it, I know that because I was great friends with my housing officer and told me.

I made a plan a failsafe in the event they attempt to take the child from us. I did everything I was told to one of which was to attend all mental health appointments and I did even on the hour my wife was giving birth I was still in session but claimed to court I didn't. That point failsafe was initiated because the intent was clear. Have to understand my mind was breaking at this point after 9 months of absolute torture, so my wife was instructed to go full on against me and make it appear I was abusive because we kept her as clean as fresh sheets, the SS wont be able to touch her and no way a child of mine will be taken by the reich. I had to crucify myself to make it happen but at the time living was not a priority so after effects didn't matter to me. Though it did work and they took the bait and my wife got my child. Always made me laugh claim so afraid of me yet out of sessions were all too happy to stand all alone with me and discuss normal things like weather. Or caring for them by saying my stairs are a little slippery be careful don't fall down them as their shoes were so thin, claimed I threatened to push them down the stairs.

I then got with a psychotic woman after that in a period of who cares. Had a child with the psycho that tbh I worshiped a lot. She went full on psycho and started openly accusing me of abusing my daughter sexually. To begin with I had not seen my daughter in days - a week because working very hard because the job I was forced to get by the screwball because we were "scumbags" for not working. But it would have been impossible to do, I know most men have egos but even still mine don't reach 9 miles long which was the distance between my daughter and myself at the time. She also knew I had not seen my daughter but in her screwball mind its all true.

In the relationship there was a [censored] of a lot of blackmail, abuse, gaslighting, manipulation and physical abuse. I worshipped this woman I would have done anything for her, mostly because of my condition if someone knows how I become a drone to a master. My therapist stopped that happening to me and she didn't like it. I took so good care of her and all I got in return is abuse for years, in the end I feel into other womans arms so shamed from abuse and withholding affections of any kind, constant attacks and arguments. She didn't know but suspected as I was no longer her obedient slave and hated every moment of it.

We broke up and she made very unreasonable demands that I oh this is funny, sent me documents of "how to be a better partner" in the hope another brain washing attempt will work. this document was the mans good housewife books version. She is always right, never raise you voice at her, if she does something wrong forgive her immediately, don't argue with her opinions as she is right and not seeing that is abuse. To put perspective on this she is a bi polar nut case (diagnosed) and when she gets a thought its rock solid like once a 2 day argument of the fact I had transformed into a common house spider and spider walked 192 miles to harass her, real belief! no talking her out of the insanity of the claim. Or wanting homeless people to start sleeping in the family home … with my very young daughter in the house and could not see anything wrong with the idea????.

It ended with a simple thing, when I took driving out of the picture she either hulked out or seductive. I broke up with her in the car once, get yourself to therapy tomorrow now get out of my car, though refused and started saying wanted to stay together. But at the time I gave up she kept saying its my responsibility to drive her around still and offered chances to change my mind, after a few no! she said well don't think you should see ( my daughter) anymore then. We argued like crazy and I got extremely mad on the phone obviously as my daughter had nothing to do with it and no one abuses my daughter using her as a pawn or weapon. No contact, some contact, no contact, supervised...……. after a while managed to get 2 hours supervised by her mother and the only reason for the supervision is she wanted to make claims of abusing my daughter so needed someone to play along. Im not stupid I installed CCTV in the house knowing her well I know her tiny mind and how it works.

My daughter kept asking for things so I sent a letter to my ex, as she was harassing me at work, home, phone, email, facebook, WhatsApp and my mates I had to threaten her with harassment order to get her to stop so letters only. My cub asked to go places with daddy and as the retarded ex seems to have all power I ask her if its ok. Everytime I asked for something I got something taken from me instead out of spite. Claims my daughter having nightmares about me, another false accusation as my daughter never seen me angry or alike. In addition to the supervision moving away, so I lost all contact full stop the day before I was meant to see my girl. Also a lie as I visited the house they lived at every week and were still there not moved at all.

Got so p'd off taking her to court and very soon is my date. The problem Is there is so much, this so far don't even make 1% of the whole picture. Since my daughter was conceived for instance I had had zero! choices on anything the name, whos surname, what nursery she goes to etc NOTHING! complete parental alienation. A solicitor asked for contact in a centre and the most lame excuse ever from my ex …. sorry but no there are not enough supervisors in the centre … what? honestly I went up there its 2 supervisors to 1 dad and girl. And in all honesty the woman supervising me with my daughter if it was my desire she would pose no threat to me about 100000 years old practically dust in a skin suit, and she is meant to protect my daughter against me lol.

The typical though my ex is throwing everything at me in abuse terms, every type of abuse she could think of. Problem is how do you fight the psycho thoughts of a nut case. Like every other man I know as they get close to victory more accusations come up and they have to explore and drag it on, women don't like to let go. She will also use the event at the top against me no doubt that I was accused of abuse and had a child taken away before etc.

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Topic starter Posted : 16/12/2018 3:59 am
 Mojo
(@Mojo)
Illustrious Member Registered

I won’t lie to you, from what you’ve said, you do have an uphill struggle on your hands.

Whilst I can understand your frustration and hurt, it would probably be better to focus on your child and what is in her best interests.

There’s a lot of name calling of your ex in your post, it’s better if you don’t indulge in that type of talk in court, it just wouldn’t go down too well at all.

Push for contact in a centre, have information to hand about the centre and availability etc.

As tempting as it is to trade abuse and accusations with your ex, certainly you can mention any concerns you have, but I would resist bad mouthing her.

All the best

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Posted : 16/12/2018 11:50 pm
(@painkiller)
Eminent Member Registered

Thank you, don't worry I wont be talking like that in or near court. Bluntly I need to vent off frustration sometimes in order to stop myself doing the things I promised myself I would stop doing.

I did try a contact centre with the ex, her excuse was there are not enough people supervising. I personally went up there and learnt it would be 2- 1 ratio and saw more staff in there than I have in a super market.

What I believe to be best for my daughter is to not be caught in the middle of parents in conflict one thing I promised I would protect her from since I had to go through it myself. She have a stable relationship with both parents equally, my daughter relied on me for a lot of things and I highly doubt my ex is doing the things I used to do. Im the soft hand, my ex the frustrated hand. My daughter came to me for most things like nappy or creams because I am the funny gentle daddy not the pin her to a mat and wrestle her down, I never needed to. Every outing was me solo parenting as ex refused to come with, new and exciting experiences.

I really miss my cub

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Topic starter Posted : 17/12/2018 5:19 am
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