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Ok I'm a mum and not a dad but my exhusband has custody and we are going thro court. He wants full custody and I want shared. Yes, I have had a lot of mental health problems mostly due to being sexually abused as a child, I was kicked out of the family home by my ex in Jan this year , I was hospitalized after that but that's because I was separated from my children . And yes I had alcohol abuse problems for a couple of years.and now I live in temporary accommodation for homeless people because he threw me out. ex was very abusive in terms of constant swearing at me,he made me sign over our joint account, ...
Cafcass doing a report.
Aw that sounds awful I have no chance. I just miss them so much I was their primary care giver for 9.5 years til Jan.
Hi there, I'm sorry to hear about what you are going through. If you were the primary carer of your children for over 9 years, I have no doubt they think about you and miss you.
I don't know you and I don't know much detail about your case, but you describe you have been through hard times, and it sounds as if that made it more difficult to give them the level of care they need ?
Are you seeing your children at all ?
Hi there
What happened to you in your past is awful and I can understand why that may have affected your mental health.
Without knowing why you had to leave the family home, it's difficult to comment or advise you further. As you are in temporary accommodation, it might not be an appropriate place to take your children and you will have to show that you are on top of any alcohol abuse and are managing your MH problems.
My advice to you would be to get yourself back on your feet, steer clear of alcohol and bad company and work on getting yourself back on track, that means a job and a home to welcome your kids to when the time comes.
We have mostly Dads here and I would tell them the same, jump through all the hoops asked of you and then some and if you can turn your life around you'll be in with a chance to be a part of your kids lives again.
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